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<title>Katie Lersch - EzineArticles Expert Author</title>
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<description><![CDATA[Katie Lersch enjoys helping other women save their marriages or heal from the pain of an affair.]]></description>
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<title>Why Is My Husband So Hot And Cold When He Claims He Wants To Save Our Marriage After His Affair?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "after my husband admitted to an affair, he started sobbing and told me that his biggest fear was losing me and the kids. He begged me to give him a chance to make this up to me. I was hesitant but I don't want to lose my family either. So I told him we would see what happened. He agreed to go to counseling and we have been going weekly. It helps a little but our biggest problem is that he is hot and then he's cold. One day he can't show me enough affection and attention and the next day, he is distant. And when he is distant, this makes me wonder if he is thinking about the other woman or having doubts about me and our marriage. I'm just so discouraged by this because I don't want to live the rest of my life with a husband who isn't sure how he feels about me or our marriage. Is this going to last forever?"]]></description>
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<title>I Want To Take My Time To Do Some Soul Searching After The Affair But I'm Feeling Pressured</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I sometimes hear from both husbands and wives (as well as the faithful spouse and the cheating spouse) who are being criticized for their decision to take time out to do some soul searching after one spouse has cheated or had an affair. Here's an example from a wife in the opposite situation: "my husband admitted to an affair because he wanted to tell me himself instead of my finding out from someone else. He told me he would do whatever I needed him to do to restore my trust and to save our marriage. I really wanted to believe him, but I'm hurting quite a bit. I don't think healing is going to be an easy or quick process. And I have told him that I am going to need some time to do some thinking and some soul searching before I can give him an answer about our marriage. But he doesn't appear to be willing to accept this. He wants my forgiveness and my commitment right away. Am I wrong to want to take my time and process this?"]]></description>
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<title>Should I Show My Husband Who The Other Woman Truly Is? If So, How?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 09 Feb 2012 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "as soon as my husband admitted to cheating, I went on a campaign to find out who the other woman was. At first, he didn't want to tell me but I assured him that I would find out eventually because I wasn't going to give up until I did. As a result, he gave me a name but wouldn't offer any more information. So I hired someone to do a background check on her. And just I suspected, she's not who she claims to be. She told my husband she has never been married when in fact she has been married three times. She told my husband she has never had children, when in fact she has two kids who have been taken from her. She has filed for bankruptcy and is in tons of debt. I know that this woman is going to take advantage of my husband and will try to benefit from him financially. How can I expose her for who she truly is?"]]></description>
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<title>Why Do Men Claim Their Wives Don't Understand Them In Order To Be Unfaithful?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 08 Feb 2012 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I sometimes hear from both wives and women who cheat with married men who ask my why unfaithful men claim that their wives do not understand them. Common comments from the wife are things like: "my husband had an affair with a coworker with whom I am an acquaintance. When I confronted this woman about cheating with my husband, she told me that my husband told her that I didn't care about what he was going through at work and that I didn't understand his struggles or what he needed. This is so ridiculous. I am a great listener. And I always make a point to ask him about his work and listen to what he says. Why would he tell this woman complete lies about me and my marriage?" I'll try to address these concerns in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>I Find My Husband Repulsive After He Cheated On Me: Insights That Might Help</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 07 Feb 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I sometimes hear from wives who see their husband in a new and completely unflattering way after they find out that he cheated or had an affair. Some adjectives I hear wives use to describe their husbands are words like creepy, disgusting, repulsive, perverted, or deviant. I heard from a wife who said: "I have found out that my husband had an affair with a low life he met at a bar. I am just repulsed by his behavior. My husband is well thought of in our community and now I found out that he was cruising bars and that he met this woman at a disgusting hotel for sex. That mental picture is one that I will never get out of my head. To be quite honest, I find my husband completely disgusting and repulsive right now. The idea of sleeping with him turns my stomach. I see him as perverted looser. Will my feelings ever change? Because I have two kids to consider. I will try to address these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Focused On Making Your Husband Suffer After He Cheated Or Had An Affair? These Tips Might Help</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:59:03 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I sometimes hear from wives who, very understandably, want their husbands to "pay" or "suffer" for cheating or having an affair. Many can focus on little else but getting revenge or on making their husbands gravely sorry for cheating. I heard from a wife who said: "my husband cheated on me with a much younger woman. I am so furious. I want him to truly suffer for doing this. I don't want him to have a moment's peace in his life. I want him to live with regret and to wonder every day how he could be so stupid. I don't want a divorce because a divorce would make things too easy for him. I want him to have to look at my face every day and wonder how he could hurt me as I did. But my friend says my feelings aren't healthy. Is she right? Because I can't help feeling this way." I'll try to address these concerns in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Why Do Men Isolate Themselves After They Are Unfaithful?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 02 Feb 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I caught my husband having an affair a month ago. When I confronted him, he was very unhappy that I was spying on him and he tried to make me the villain in the situation. Once that didn't work, he very begrudgingly agreed to end the affair and try to save our marriage. However, although he has broken things off with the other woman, he sulks around the house like a kid who has been separated from his favorite toy. He isolates himself so that he can go off and pout. He hasn't been attending our children's activities and he will sit himself in his home office and only come out to eat or make phone calls. What can I do about this? And what does it mean when a husband isolates himself after an affair? I will try to address these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>How Can A Man Say That His Infidelity Wasn't About The Sex?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 01 Feb 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Many people assume that an affair is all about sex. I would even venture to say that most people think that cheating men must not have a great sex life at home so they are having to go elsewhere. Sadly, many wives whose husbands are unfaithful believe this also. I heard from a wife who said in part: "I caught my husband having an affair. One of the first things I expressed was that I didn't understand why he would cheat on me when our sex life was actually pretty good. My husband responded that the affair actually didn't have much to do with sex. He said it was much more than sex. This doesn't make sense to me. If he wasn't cheating on me because of sex, then why would he cheat? I think we had a good marriage. We're always been very close. It's true that my job has been stressful lately, but I didn't see this coming. I thought our marriage was pretty solid so my assumption was that he cheated for the sex. But he denies this? How can he be telling me the truth?"]]></description>
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<title>What Should You Do When Your Spouse Wants An Open Marriage Because Of His Infidelity?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 31 Jan 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Occasionally, I hear from wives whose husband want to redefine the terms of their marriage after an affair. Many will suggest concessions or changes as an alternative to them leaving the marriage. One such is example is husbands trying to convince their wife to have an "open" or "unconventional" marriage instead of breaking up or ending the marriage. I heard from a wife who said: "my husband had an affair with a coworker. He came and told me not only about the affair but also about his intense feelings for this other woman. I expected him to ask me for a separation or a divorce, but he didn't. Instead, he has told me that he is in love with us both. ]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Insists That He Doesn't Have Any Regrets About Cheating - What Does This Mean?</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 30 Jan 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "for the past six weeks, my husband and I have tip toed very lightly around each other because he had an affair a couple of months ago. He admitted it to me and I think he did so because of his commitment to our family. Some days I hate what he did and therefore I feel like I hate him. And other times, I remember that he's the man I fell in love with and I want to try to make it work. And then, out of the blue the other day, we were talking about rebuilding our marriage after the affair and I said 'I'll bet if you knew then what you know now you never would've pursued an affair.' He paused and said 'I don't regret for one minute what I did. I had a connection with her and it was meaningful. I regret that it hurt you. I regret the betrayal. But I don't regret meeting her.' I was stunned. How am I supposed to respond to that? It makes me think my marriage doesn't even begin to stand a chance."]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Finally Admitted to Cheating On Me - What Now?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 25 Jan 2012 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Many wives think that if they can just get their husband to finally admit to the affair, they can finally start the healing process, or at least can begin moving on. But often, once they finally get that admission, they aren't sure what they should do next. I heard from a wife who said: "for the longest time, I knew that my husband must be cheating on me. But every time I asked my husband about this, he would deny it. Sometimes, he would get very angry. This was a horrible time in my life because I began to ask myself if perhaps I was just imagining things. One day, I decided I wasn't going to take this anymore and I told my husband that I wasn't going to drop the topic until he finally told me the truth. Much to my surprise, he finally did. Out of the blue, after months of denials, he finally admitted to an affair but he said that he didn't tell me because it had long been over. Although I'd been rehearsing this moment in my own head for months, I wasn't sure what to do."]]></description>
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<title>Does Cheating Or Having An Affair Make A Man Happy?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 24 Jan 2012 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from wives who truly want to know what their husband legitimately feels during his affair. Often, they can't help but notice that he's acting downright silly with a definite spring in his step. He's suddenly humming a little tune while getting ready for work. This can make some wives wonder if the affair is making him happy. I heard from a wife who said: "do men find truly happiness with their affair? I assumed that once I found out about my husband's affair, he would break it off. He says he can't do that because the other woman makes him blissfully happy. And even though it hurts me so badly to admit this, my husband does indeed seem much happier. He's never been a particularly chipper person but lately he is absolutely giddy. It's pretty disgusting to watch. And it's so upsetting to me because I realize that if she makes him this happy, then our marriage doesn't really stand a chance. Not only that, but if I love this man, how can I deny him his happiness? Should I stop step aside and allow him to be happy? Or is his happiness all a temporary thing?"]]></description>
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<title>Withholding Sex After Your Husband's Affair: Is This A Good Idea?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 12 Jan 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "the idea of having sex with my husband right now is not at all appealing to me. Because when I think about being intimate with him, I think about him being intimate with her and that is the biggest turn off in the world. One of my friends has recently gone through this and she has told me that eventually, my desire will return. She said that I will want to have sex with him again because this is part of the recovery process and it will bring us closer together when we start to reconcile. Frankly, I have no intention of having sex with him again for a very long time. I feel like if I withhold sex, he will be truly sorry for what he has done. My friend says this is not a good idea. Is she right? Should I stop having sex with him because he had an affair?"]]></description>
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<title>Do You Doubt Your Husband's Love For You After His Affair? These Insights Might Help</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who felt the same. She said: "part of me loathes my husband for having an affair. There are days when I want absolutely nothing to do with him. And then there are days when I don't want to throw my marriage away. This other woman isn't worth that. One mistake isn't worth that. The major problem that we are having now is that I have trouble believing him when he says he loves me now and that he never stopped loving me. I will have awful thoughts like he wasn't thinking of his love for me when he was with another woman. It's so hard for me to understand how you can love someone at the same instance as you are betraying them. And so a part of me is always wondering if my husband is lying. And when I question this, he becomes angry at me and gets discouraged. He says if I'm always going to doubt him that we may as well just go ahead and get a divorce. But I just can't help it. What can you do when you doubt your husband's love for you even though he had an affair?"]]></description>
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<title>Should I Separate From My Husband After His Affair To Scare Him?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 10 Jan 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband had an affair last month. Apparently, it wasn't a long term affair and he swears it wasn't that meaningful to him and that he wants to stay married to me. But I am so very wounded by this. I want him to be filled with remorse and I want him to be scared of losing me. And I'm not seeing either one of these right now. My mother suggested that I insist that we separate. She said this would make him see what he lost and make him wonder if he's going to be able to maintain the marriage since I will be the one making the choices. Is this advised? Is it a good idea to separate after the affair? I will try to answer these questions, as well as offer some pros and cons, in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Does Anything Justify Cheating On Your Spouse?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6800131</link>
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<pubDate>Mon, 09 Jan 2012 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband says he was fully justified in cheating on me and therefore will not take full responsibility for his actions. He also doesn't appear to be all that sorry for cheating. I will admit that I wasn't keeping up with him sexually. If my husband had his way, we would have sex every night. Last year, I was going through some problems and my libido was much lower than his. He would constantly complain that he was getting enough sex and that, when we did have sex, it wasn't very exciting or adventurous. When he would say things like this, it would make me angry. So I would make comments like 'why don't you go out and find someone who satisfies you then?' Needless to say, my husband took this to heart. He started cheating with women he met at bars. When I found out, I was furious. So who is right? Is there every any valid justification to cheat on your spouse? He says he wants to save our marriage, but when he tries to justify his cheating, it just infuriates me and I want nothing to do with him."]]></description>
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<title>Why Am I Not More Angry About My Husband's Cheating?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 06 Jan 2012 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband came to me and admitted to an affair. He said that he couldn't live in secrecy anymore and he wanted to tell me before I found out and ended our marriage. He promised to end things with the other woman and he was crying and carrying on. For a while, I just sat there silently because I had no idea how to react. I was so shocked that I was pretty speechless. I assumed that the anger would come, but so far, it hasn't. I'm honestly just kind of numb. There's some sadness. And there is definitely some disappointment. But I'm not really furious. At least not yet. Does this mean something? Does my lack of anger mean that my marriage is over? Does it mean that I don't love my husband? Does it mean that I feel guilty for letting my marriage and myself go?"]]></description>
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<title>Is It A Good Idea To Ignore Your Spouse's Cheating?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6795283</link>
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<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jan 2012 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I know that my husband is cheating on me. I even know who the other woman is. I also know that he could never become serious about someone like her. My husband lost his job and then lost his father over the span of only two months. So I know that he is really struggling right now and I suspect that his infidelity is the direct result of this. The other day, I discussed this with my husband's sister and she said that I should just ignore the cheating because she is sure that my husband will stop it in his own time. She says that she knows that my husband loves me and will stop cheating. I remember when my daughter was a toddler, my pediatrician told me to ignore the bad behavior (like tantrums) that I didn't want and to praise the good behavior that I did want. This worked well with my daughter but I don't know if that advice is applicable here. Is it ever a good idea to ignore your husband's infidelity?" I will tell you my take on this in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>I Kicked My Husband Out After His Affair, But He's Begging To Come Home To Fix Things - What Now?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6792834</link>
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<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jan 2012 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I caught my husband having an affair seven weeks ago. He was cheating with someone at work and I immediately put his clothes on the porch and locked him out of the house. He has been living at a hotel. The other day, I picked up the phone and he proceeded to beg me to allow him to come home and 'fix it.' I asked him what he meant by that and he said that he's sure that if I just allowed him to come home, I would see how sorry and sincere he truly is. He says that if I give him the chance, he knows that he could fix our marriage and make me happy again. I told him I wasn't sure that there was any way to "fix" a marriage that he chose to break with his cheating, especially since his actions were not accidental but deliberate. Should I allow him back into my life?"]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Doesn't Care If I Forgive Him For His Affair - Why Is He Acting This Way?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6760151</link>
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<pubDate>Tue, 03 Jan 2012 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I sometimes hear from wives who are so disappointed in their husband's attitude after they have caught him cheating or having an affair. Many wives expect him to act one way, but are upset when he acts in a completely different way than what was expected. I heard from a wife who said: "I caught my husband having an affair two weeks ago. He didn't even seem all that remorseful. He said that he wanted to save our marriage and that he would end the affair, but he didn't seem all that sincere. Yesterday, I told my husband that I didn't know if I would be able to forgive him any time soon. He told me extensive and hurtful lies. I am going to have a hard time getting over that. I was floored when he turned to me and said 'I don't want or need your forgiveness and I don't even recall asking for it.' What does this even mean? Why would he not even want my forgiveness if he says he wants to save our marriage? How should I even respond to this?" I will address these concerns in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Worried That The Other Woman Is Still Thinking About Your Husband? Tips That Might Help</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6757515</link>
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<pubDate>Thu, 15 Dec 2011 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband's affair has been over for about three months. I believe him when he says he hasn't been in contact with the other woman. We have been doing intense counseling and, for the most part, we are doing OK. However, I can't help thinking about this other woman all of the time. I read some letters she wrote him where she said she'd never loved anyone in the way that she loved him. Obviously, she was very invested in him. I know that it's silly, but I find myself thinking a lot about her and how she feels now that the affair is over. I know that I shouldn't contact her, but does she still think of my husband?"]]></description>
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<title>He Cheated On Me And I Took Him Back - Does This Mean I Have Low Self Esteem?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 14 Dec 2011 07:59:04 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said "my husband had an affair last year. After a lot of soul searching, I decided to take him back. I kicked him out and we lived apart for a few months. I missed him. I just couldn't help it. And while I was missing him, he was calling all of the time and promising me that if I would just take him back, I wouldn't be sorry because he would make this up to me. I am excited about the thought of rebuilding my marriage, but not everyone is as excited and optimistic as I am. My mother told me that only women with low self esteem take back cheating husbands. She says I am crazy to take back a man who cheated on me. She always asks me if I don't think I'm good enough to find anyone else. She says I sell myself short and I could find a better man who would be faithful to me if I would just improve my self esteem. Is she right? Do only women with low self esteem take back men who cheat or have affairs?"]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Won't Tell Me The Name Of The Woman He Cheated On Me With - How Can I Make Him Tell Me?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6746651</link>
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<pubDate>Tue, 13 Dec 2011 07:59:03 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband finally admitted that he has been cheating. I've strongly suspected it all along. He hasn't been coming home on time. He's been taking a lot of private phone calls and texts. He's been distant and cold to me. He hasn't shown any interest in me sexually for a while. I have repeatedly accused him of cheating and he has always denied it. However, last night he finally broke down and admitted that he had been cheating but had recently stopped. If that's not devastating enough, he will not disclose who he has been cheating with. He says that who she was does not matter because she is now out of his life. He says he wants to move on with our marriage and put this behind us. How can I even begin to do that when he won't even tell me who she is? Why would he keep this from me?" I will discuss these issues (and try to answer her questions) in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>My Wife Doesn't Believe The Affair Is Over - What Can I Do To Prove It To Her?</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 12 Dec 2011 07:59:03 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I sometimes hear from couples who are dealing with remaining suspicions about an affair. Sometimes I hear from husbands who are having a hard time convincing their wives that the affair is over. From them, I often hear comments like: "I swear the affair is over. But no matter what I do or say, my wife thinks I'm lying to her. She seems to think that I'm only claiming the affair is over so that she'll trust me again and let down her guard so I can continue cheating. This isn't at all true. I ended the affair and I haven't called, texted, or interacted with the other woman. This doesn't seem to be enough. How can I convince her that the affair is over?"]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Won't Even Listen To Me After He Cheated: Tips That Might Help</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6741365</link>
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<pubDate>Fri, 09 Dec 2011 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I really want my husband to listen to me when I express my feelings about his cheating. I have a lot of anger that he is going to need to address. But I have even more pain. And I want him to hear me out so that he will understand just how much this has hurt me. But if I even start to talk about my feelings, he will try to change the subject. Sometimes, if that doesn't work he will abruptly get up and leave and make a comment like 'I don't want to talk about this anymore.' And he just leaves me sitting there as if I'm the one who has done something wrong. I am so close to leaving him. If he doesn't respect me enough to listen to my feelings, then I don't know how I can even stay married to him. How can I get him to listen to me?"]]></description>
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<title>How Can I Be Happy After My Husband's Infidelity?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6738469</link>
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<pubDate>Thu, 08 Dec 2011 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from wives who wonder if they will ever be truly happy again after their husband cheated or had an affair. Many can divide their happiness level into two levels - before the infidelity and after it. I heard from a wife who said: "although it might be hard to believe today, I actually used to be a very happy person. I used to be a 'glass half full' type person, but I'm certainly not that way anymore. Ever since my husband had an affair with one of my friends, I feel as if bad things are always going to happen. I am always wondering what tragedy is going to be put in my path next. And I hate living this way. But husband's betrayal seems to have stolen all of the happiness from my life and I miss it. I want to be blissfully happy again. I want to laugh again. But every time I have these thoughts, I think that they are impossible because I just don't feel as if I have all that much to be happy about." I will share what tips I offered to this wife in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Do People Eventually Regret Cheating? Why Many Do</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 07 Dec 2011 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from husbands or wives who want to know if their spouse will ever regret cheating on them. Many times, the cheating spouse has been able to justify their actions or is making all sorts of excuses for the same. Common comments are things like: "my husband ended up leaving me for the woman he cheated with. Our marriage was having some problems, but nothing that couldn't be worked out. When I found out, he didn't even seem to be all that sorry. He didn't even want to try to save our marriage. He left me and our children for this other woman. He said he was going to marry her, but they broke up before they could make it down the aisle. My husband now says that she's a conniving and selfish woman and that he misjudged her. However, he has never expressed regret for his actions. My family is torn apart. I am struggling to make ends meet and to keep my house. But he's never once admitted that the cheating was a mistake. I wonder if people ever regret it when they cheat or have an affair. Do they?"]]></description>
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<title>I Want My Husband To Have Negative Feelings Toward The Woman He Had An Affair With, But He Doesn't</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6731197</link>
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<pubDate>Tue, 06 Dec 2011 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I absolutely hate the woman my husband had an affair with. She is a neighbor who targeted my husband from the start. She lied to him about her own marital status. She said not too flattering things about me and our marriage to try to entice my husband to cheat. And once the affair was found out, she then tried to blame everything on my husband without taking any responsibility. She is a deplorable person. The other day, my husband and I were talking about the affair and I said 'I absolutely hate her. Don't you?' My husband responded that he didn't dislike her. He said that he regretted the affair, but that he didn't hate anyone and that there was plenty of blame to go around. This makes me angry at my husband. He knows I want him to feel negatively about her, but he can't seem to do it. Should I worry about this? Does this mean he still has feelings for her or that he knows that the affair is all his fault?" I will try to address these concerns in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>We Can't Seem To Communicate After My Husband's Affair: Insights To Get You Talking Again</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 05 Dec 2011 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband had an affair with one of my close friends. I am beyond furious and I feel so betrayed. However, because we have children, we are committed to making it work. Sometimes, I doubt this decision because things are so strained between us. My husband will not open up to me. He doesn't say more than a string of words to me in any given day. Even small talk seems like a huge effort. I want him to talk to me and tell me why he had this affair, how he feels about me now, and what he envisions for our future. But I can't get more than a couple of grunts out of him. The sad thing is that the communication was always really good in our marriage. I always stressed that he could tell me anything. But those thoughts aren't realistic now. Because we aren't communicating at all, even about the little things. How can we rebuild the communication so that we can start to save and rebuild our marriage?" I will offer some tips on how to do this in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Husband Won't Go To Counseling After Cheating? Tips That Might Help</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 30 Nov 2011 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband had a six month affair last year. We have been to counseling for the past four months and he hates going. He only goes because I make him go. Our counselor has strongly suggested that my husband go to individual counseling because of his tendency to self sabotage and to make impulsive decisions. He refuses to go. This worries me. While I can't deny that we've made a lot of progress in joint counseling, I really want for him to work on his own issues. I worry that if he doesn't, he will end up cheating again. But he says that he understands his issues and can change on his own. Who's right? Will he cheat again if he refuses individual counseling?" I will tell you my opinion on this in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Is It Worth It To Try To Save Your Marriage After An Affair? Why I Think That It Can Be</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6712399</link>
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<pubDate>Mon, 28 Nov 2011 07:59:03 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from people who are getting discouraged as they are trying to save their marriage following cheating or an affair. Sometimes, they find themselves asking if the struggles are even worth it. I heard from a wife who said: "my husband had an affair last year. We are both committed to saving our marriage but it's been a huge struggle. We are both trying our best, but things are strained between us. I try to trust him, but honestly, I don't. I'm always worried that he's going to cheat again. When he tells me he loves me, I always have sarcastic responses in the back of my head that I don't actually say. And our sex life is awkward. It feels like we're just going through the motions. Sometimes, I think that he doesn't really desire me and that he's just here out of obligation. Every day is more of a challenge. Nothing comes easily between us any more. I'm starting to wonder if it's even worth it. If all we're going to have left is a bitter shell of our marriage, then what's the point?"]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Is Confused About What He Wants After He Cheated: Tips That Might Help</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6709903</link>
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<pubDate>Wed, 23 Nov 2011 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband admitted to me that he has been cheating and having an affair with my daughter's gymnastics coach. Since I really had no suspicions and he had no reason to tell me, I expected that this meant that he would immediately break it off and make every attempt to save our marriage. Instead, he is telling me that he doesn't know if he's going to end his relationship with her. He insists that he is "so confused" because he has feelings for both of us. He claims that while he ultimately wants to save our marriage, he is not sure if he is ready to let her go because he has genuine feelings for her too. That's just wonderful for him, but where does it leave me? Do I have to just sit around and wait for him to decide who or what he wants? Am I just supposed to patiently wait for his confusion to fade? And what is there to be confused about? He made wedding vows to me, not her." I will try to address these concerns in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Is It Cheating If My Husband Has Feelings For Someone Else?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6707115</link>
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<pubDate>Tue, 22 Nov 2011 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I noticed a distance from my husband since he started working with a new woman at his job. I suspected something was going on. I asked him what she looked like but he wouldn't answer me directly. Once, I showed up to his office and I could tell that he didn't want me there. I kept on asking about this other woman and finally yesterday, he admitted that he has developed feelings for her. However, he swears that nothing physical has happened between them. He says they have gone to lunch in the past for work related things. I suspect this means they are having an affair. My friend says that it's not an affair if he hasn't crossed the line or if he isn't in a physical relationship with her. But I think an affair can also be emotional and I'm so furious right now. Who's right?" I definitely have an opinion about this, which I will share with you in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Blames Me For Making Him Feel Embarrassed About His Cheating</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6702466</link>
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<pubDate>Mon, 21 Nov 2011 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "last month, I found about that my husband cheated. He calls it merely cheating. I say it was an affair because he carried on with the same woman for given weeks. He promptly found a counselor and off we went. I thought we were making progress. But then the other day, the counselor asked me to come up with some adjectives to describe my husband. I chose immature, weak, and easily impressionable. She asked me why I chose those. I answered that I could not help but think of my husband this way because what kind of middle aged man would pick up a young jobless woman at a gym and then carry on for weeks when clearly this woman was interested only in his money. To me, that makes him quite foolish and that is how I truly felt. When we got home, my husband told me to forget the counseling and trying to save the marriage. He said I had embarrassed and humiliated him."]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Seems Remorseful For His Affair - Does This Mean He Won't Have Another One?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6699886</link>
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<pubDate>Fri, 18 Nov 2011 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Many wives ask me if sorrow or guilt are positive signs that might mean he won't cheat again. I heard from a wife who said: "my husband admitted to his affair. I didn't even suspect that anything was wrong. So he didn't have to tell me, but he did, partly because he felt so guilty and awful for his actions. He has told me how sorry he is a million times. He literally cries and pleads on a repeated basis. I still love my husband. Words can not express how badly I hurt. But I still love him and want to save my marriage. However, the main thing that I know is going to keep me from doing this is the worry that he will cheat again. He swears he won't. But I have a lot of fear because I don't intend to ever go through this again. My question is whether his being so sorry and remorseful is a good indication that he will not cheat again?" I will address this in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Feeling Insecure After Your Husband Cheated? These Tips Might Help</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6697289</link>
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<pubDate>Thu, 17 Nov 2011 07:59:01 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband cheated on me with a much younger, much prettier woman. When I found out, he said he would break things off and it appears that he did. We have been working on our marriage and I feel like we're making a little bit of progress. But I do have problems with being very insecure. This wasn't an issue for me before he cheated. Yes, I'm older, but so is he. I take relatively good care of myself and I feel like I'm relatively decent looking. But I can't compare with someone who is much younger, prettier and skinnier than me. My husband says the affair wasn't about her looks. He says it was about his own desire to be young and desirable again. But what does that mean for me? I can't change my age. So I can't make him feel young around me. And now every time we're out and there's a young, pretty girl, I feel insecure.]]></description>
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<title>If I Cheat On My Husband, Will He Finally Stop Cheating On Me?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6694543</link>
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<pubDate>Wed, 16 Nov 2011 06:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I just found out that my husband is having yet another affair. The last time I caught him, he swore he'd never look at another woman, and, like a fool, I believed him. And yet, here we are not even a year later and we're going through this nonsense again. Clearly, he was lying all along. And clearly, those words he said and promises he made didn't mean a thing. I want him to know how it feels to be in love with a liar and a cheat. I'm considering having my own affair and admitting it right to his face. If I did, would he stop his cheating? Would making him see how much this hurts scare him straight?" It's impossible for me to predict the future and guess as to how the husband might react to his wife's revenge affair. But I can tell you that, in my opinion and experience, this is almost never a good idea. I will tell you why below.]]></description>
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<title>My Husband And I Both Cheated - What Now?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6691513</link>
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<pubDate>Tue, 15 Nov 2011 06:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "both my husband and I cheated on one another last year. My own affair was in response to my husband's. He cheated first and I was so hurt that I checked out of our marriage. We separated and during the separation, I met another man and began a relationship. I did so because I honestly thought our marriage was over. However, a couple of weeks ago, my husband called and asked me to lunch. He told me that he missed me more than he could express and asked if there was any chance for us to try to save our marriage. He said that obviously we would need counseling to work through our two affairs. I wouldn't mind saving my marriage. But I feel like my affair was less egregious than his. I would not have cheated if he hadn't cheated first. How do couples deal with it when they've both cheated? Is the healing twice as hard?" I will try to answer these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>I Know That My Husband Loves Me - So How Could He Cheat On Me And Have An Affair?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6681348</link>
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<pubDate>Mon, 14 Nov 2011 06:59:03 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "there is no doubt in my mind that my husband loved me during his affair and I fully believe that he loves me now. That's why I simply can't wrap my brain around why he would cheat on me. I admit that our lives were stressful when I was undergoing treatment for severe thyroid issues. But my husband was so loving and supportive during that time that I never would have suspected that he was caring for me in the evenings and then having an affair with his coworker during the day. How could he know that I was home sick and still carry out what he did? How could he love and worry about me and then sleep with someone else? How can a man who truly loves his wife cheat on her?" I will try to answer these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Acts As If His Past Cheating Was Not A Big Deal - What Can I Do?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6680893</link>
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<pubDate>Thu, 10 Nov 2011 06:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "My husband admitted to me that he had an affair early on in our marriage. I guess he hoped that because so much time had passed, I wouldn't be as angry and he wouldn't be as accountable. But I am angry and he should be accountable. However, every time I want to discuss the affair, he downplays it and acts as if it's no big deal. He'll say things like 'that's ancient history' or 'that relationship meant nothing to me. It wasn't a big deal. Are you really going to punish me for something that happened years ago and meant nothing?' This just infuriates me. I don't care when he had an affair. He still cheated on me and I still deserve answers and remorse from him. How do I handle this? It's not fair that he can just downplay the affair and I'm supposed to just drop it."]]></description>
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<title>Dealing With The Shame Of Cheating Or Having An Affair</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6678254</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6678254</guid>
<pubDate>Wed, 09 Nov 2011 06:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "Last week, I had a one night stand with a guy from my work. There was alcohol involved and I didn't mean for it to happen. I have been happily married for ten years. I've never cheated on anyone in my life until last week. And I never intended to cheat on my husband. But I did. I told the other guy that it would never happen again. And it won't. Because I will never drink at work again. But in the meantime, I can't even look at myself in the mirror. I find it hard to act normally around my husband. I can't look at my kids without being overwhelmed with shame at the way I've risked their family. How do people live with the shame after they cheat? I'm really struggling. I will tell my husband about my cheating one day. But right now, I can't even face myself. I've never hated myself so much. I can't believe I was so very stupid. I am just so ashamed of myself."]]></description>
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<title>Tips For When You're Trying To Regain The Trust Again After You Cheated Or Had An Affair</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6675441</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6675441</guid>
<pubDate>Tue, 08 Nov 2011 07:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a husband who said: "I admit that I abused my wife's trust when I cheated on her and I regret that more than I can express. I deserve her anger. I deserve her losing faith in me. But I have done everything that she has asked, including going to counseling. I come home right after work. I spend all my spare waking hours with her. I don't object when she goes though my phone or my emails because I honestly don't have anything to hide from her. I'm not cheating on her anymore and I don't intend to ever do it again. But no matter how many times I say this or hold myself accountable, she doesn't believe me. And she will tell me without blinking an eye that she no longer trusts me and doesn't know if she ever will again. My question is what do I need to do to make her trust me again after my infidelity? At this point, I am completely trustworthy, but she just will not believe me, no matter what I do or say. And this frustrates me beyond belief."]]></description>
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<title>What Should You Do If Your Spouse Is Ignoring You After Your Affair?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6671225</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6671225</guid>
<pubDate>Mon, 07 Nov 2011 06:59:02 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I admitted to cheating on my husband because I just could not stand the guilt any more. And, at the end of the day, I wanted to come clean so that I could save my marriage. I knew my husband would be furious and he was. But I wasn't expecting for him to kick me out. He pretty much didn't say a word and showed me the door. I left because I figured that he needed some time to think. However, it's been over a week and he won't take my phone calls or return my text. I showed up at the house the other day and he came to the door and just shook his head as if to show that no, he wouldn't let me in or even acknowledge my presence. Through the door, I asked him if was going to ignore me forever and he just shrugged his shoulders and turned and walked away. I understand his anger, but I absolutely hate being ignored. What does his ignoring me mean? What should I do?" I will try to answer these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>What Should You Do When You Run Into The Mistress Or Other Woman?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6670764</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6670764</guid>
<pubDate>Fri, 04 Nov 2011 10:49:30 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "the other day I was at our school's football game buying my daughter a snack when I saw the woman my husband had an affair with. I just recently found out when my husband came clean to me and begged for my forgiveness. I know of this woman because our children go to the same school. I saw her at the concession stand and, because I had no idea how I should react, I pretended that I didn't see her. But I know she saw me because after I left with my snacks. I looked over my shoulder and she was following me. I just hurried and sat with my husband and then grabbed his arm. But I didn't even tell him about seeing her. Later, I wondered if I handled this incorrectly. Should I have confronted her? Should I have said something or yelled at her to stop following me? How are you supposed to act when you see the other woman or the mistress? What is the best way to handle this?"]]></description>
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<title>I'm Afraid That My Spouse Will Always Be Angry Because I Cheated: Tips And Advice That Might Help</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6668266</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6668266</guid>
<pubDate>Thu, 03 Nov 2011 11:10:06 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a husband who said: "as soon as my wife found out about my affair, she kicked me out of the house and changed the locks. For weeks, she wouldn't take my calls or see me when I would come over. Last week, she allowed me to come over to see my children. But she barely spoke to me and gave my nasty looks the whole time. As I was leaving, I asked her for how long she planned to be angry with me. And she said she couldn't give me a time frame but that I deserved any anger that she wanted to send my way. I know that she's right but it's so hard living this way. I want her to love me again and I'm so sorry for the affair. The thought that she might always hate and be angry with me is almost more than I can bear. For how long is she going to be angry with me after my affair and is there anything I can do to help her get over this more quickly?" I will try to answer these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Tips On Making Things Up To Your Spouse After You Cheated Or Had An Affair</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6665603</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6665603</guid>
<pubDate>Wed, 02 Nov 2011 11:47:31 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a husband who said: "I made the huge mistake of cheating on my wife with my secretary. I know, what a cliche right? This devastated my wife. It hurts me so much to even look at my wife sometimes. Because this woman who used to be so loving and so confident has completely changed. There's wounded look in her eyes and she looks at every one with mistrust. I feel like I've changed who she is and have altered those things that I loved about her to begin with. I so want to make this up to her. I want to show her that if she will just give me a chance, I will never hurt her again and be the best husband she could possibly ask for. But she isn't always receptive to me and she certainly doesn't trust me. So how do I even begin to make this up to her?" I'll try to answer these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>For How Long Does The Pain And Hurt Last After Your Spouse Cheats?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6663257</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6663257</guid>
<pubDate>Tue, 01 Nov 2011 12:41:57 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who asked: "for how long does the hurt remain after a husband's affair? Because my husband's affair has clouded the way that I see the world. Every morning when I wake up, it is the first thing that I think about and I hurt. When I go to bed, I am still thinking about it and I hurt some more. I can't even do normal things without thinking about my husband's cheating. ]]></description>
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<title>Why Do People Even Try To Hang Onto Their Relationship After Someone Cheats?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6660703</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6660703</guid>
<pubDate>Mon, 31 Oct 2011 08:59:59 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from people who are unsure if it is even worth it to try to save their marriage or relationship after cheating or an affair. They often reason that if their spouse or partner can betray them in the worst way possible, why should they even try to fix things? They often ask what is the point to put time, effort, and your heart into a relationship that another person has so recklessly put at risk? I heard from a wife who said: "I am so disgusted with my husband after he admitted to lying to me for months because he had an affair. He is begging for me to give him another chance. And some of my friends tell me they hate to see me throw my marriage away without first trying to save it. But my question to them is why even try to hold onto your marriage when your spouse has an affair? Because my spouse negated my wedding vows the second he cheated on me. So I don't know why I now have to hold onto to something that he left for dead."]]></description>
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<title>She's Telling Me She's In Love With My Husband - What Should I Do?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6655998</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6655998</guid>
<pubDate>Fri, 28 Oct 2011 09:03:56 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I found out three weeks ago that my husband had an affair. This woman is one of our neighbors. My husband begged me to not leave him and to try to save our marriage. I committed to doing that because of my children and I have been avoiding this woman. However, the other day, she actually had the nerve to knock on my door. I did not let her in my home but I walked outside. And she proceeded to tell me that she was 'madly in love' with my husband and that he felt the same way about her but he didn't want my kids not to have their father. It became clear to me that what she really wanted was to plead her case so that I would back off and let her have my husband. That is not going to happen. But now I can't stop thinking about this. My husband said not to listen to her, but I can't help wondering if she was telling partial truths. What if not only is she in love with him, but he is in love with her?"]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Has Shut Me Out After I Caught Him Cheating</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6653737</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6653737</guid>
<pubDate>Thu, 27 Oct 2011 10:30:10 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I found out that my husband had a month long affair with the home health nurse that takes care of his mother. Basically, they were together only when he was visiting his mother. Once I found out, we requested a new nurse and he broke it off immediately. He insisted that he wanted to save our marriage and I wanted that too. But he's not acting in the way that you would expect from a man who is trying to keep his wife. I expected him to share his feelings, tell me what lead up to his cheating, and explain how he planned to work through this. Instead, he has completely shut down. He barely says two words to me. He rarely looks me in the eye. He no longer laughs or touches me. If I ask him what's wrong he tells me nothing is wrong. He's like a shell of who he was. Why is he acting his way?" I will try to answer this question in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Is Mad Because My Children Don't Respect Him After He Cheated On Me</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6651430</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6651430</guid>
<pubDate>Wed, 26 Oct 2011 11:08:17 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband had an affair last year. For a while, he wasn't sure if he wanted to break things off with the other woman. In fact, for a couple of weeks, he left our home and went and lived with her. However, he and the other woman broke up pretty quickly and then he called me begging to come home. I told him that I would hear him out, but I couldn't make any promises because a lot of damage has been done. However, once he moved back home, it became clear that he didn't need to just make things up to me, he also had some serious making up to do with our children. They are furious with their father. They are very disrespectful to him and half the time, they leave as soon as he walks into a room. This infuriates my husband, but my son told me that he and his siblings no longer respect a man who could walk out on his family. I understand why they feel the way that they do, but my husband is losing his patience. What can I do?"]]></description>
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<title>What Does It Mean For My Marriage If My Spouse Doesn't Seem Sorry For The Affair?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 25 Oct 2011 11:51:51 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "the other woman who my husband was cheating with actually called me and told me about the affair. I was waiting by the door as soon as my husband got home from work and told him everything that I knew. He was clearly embarrassed that I knew all the details. But, much to my surprise and disappointment, he didn't seem to be the least bit remorseful. ]]></description>
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<title>For How Long Is My Husband Going To Be Thinking Of The Person With Whom He Cheated?</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 24 Oct 2011 08:50:16 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from wives who say things like: "my husband had a 7 week affair with a woman from his school. I never worried about her because she was married also. My husband broke off the affair as soon as I found out. We have been in counseling and he is doing what is asked of him. But I know he still longs for her and thinks about her.]]></description>
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<title>What Does It Mean If Your Spouse Seems Indifferent After You Had An Affair?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6641744</link>
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<pubDate>Fri, 21 Oct 2011 10:35:14 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I sometimes hear from spouses who have just been outed for their cheating or affair. However, sometimes they are quite surprised as to the response that they are getting. Many expected a very emotional response which included everything from sadness, to fury, to devastation but what some get instead is almost an indifferent response. One example is the husband who says: "I thought that my wife would get so mad when I admitted to my affair that she was going to kick me out. But this isn't what happened. She almost acts as if she could care less." Another example is the wife who says: "my husband confronted me about cheating and I couldn't look right at him and lie so I admitted it. I expected him to kick me out, to file for divorce, and to seek custody of our son. But he hasn't done any of these things. He's just continuing to act as if nothing happened. Does the fact that he doesn't seem to care mean my marriage is over? I just don't understand it."]]></description>
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<title>How Can I Stop Having Pity Parties For Myself After My Husband's Cheating?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6639322</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6639322</guid>
<pubDate>Thu, 20 Oct 2011 10:25:37 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I had a wife tell me, in part: "it's the old standard cliche. My husband had an affair. I know that I am not the first wife to ever be cheated on and I certainly won't be the last. I am trying very hard to move on. I am not sure if I'm going to save my marriage but I know that I want to save myself. But I'm having issues with always feeling sorry for myself. The thing is, my mother was going through a bout of cancer and I was going back and forth between my house and hers to care for her. ]]></description>
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<title>I'm Miserable After My Husband Cheated On Me And I Want Him To Be Miserable Too</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6636545</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6636545</guid>
<pubDate>Wed, 19 Oct 2011 09:17:20 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from wives who are absolutely furious after their husband's affair. They are extremely resentful of the pain, betrayal, and humiliation that he has put them through and they want revenge.]]></description>
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<title>I Don't Understand Why My Husband Would Cheat, But Then Want To Stay With Me</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6634032</link>
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<pubDate>Tue, 18 Oct 2011 11:09:56 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "my husband accidentally left his email open a couple of weeks ago and I read some emails that made it obvious that he had been cheating on me. When I confronted him, he immediately admitted it and then said that he was going to break it off on his own. But, a couple of weeks later, I logged on again and there were more emails showing that he had lied and was continuing on with his cheating. Of course, I confronted him again and he was overcome with emotion and begged me to go to counseling with him because he said he could not stand to lose me. Why would my cheating husband even want to stay with me and stay married?]]></description>
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<title>Do Most Women Tell Their Husband He Must End His Affair? Why Or Why Not?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6631314</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6631314</guid>
<pubDate>Mon, 17 Oct 2011 09:56:17 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "my husband knows that I suspect he is having an affair. I have confronted him about it many times but he lies about it. I did a little checking and I know how long the affair has lasted and who the other woman is. I know when he goes out with her and what they are doing. I have waited and hoped that he would realize how stupid he is being and would end the affair on his own. But it has been several weeks now and this has not happened. So when should I tell him that I know about the affair and that it is time for him to end it? How do most wives approach this? Do most tell him that he must end his affair or else? Or do most just wait to see what is going to happen?"]]></description>
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<title>What If My Husband Loves The Other Woman And Is Truly Meant To Be With Her? Should I Bow Out?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6626407</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6626407</guid>
<pubDate>Fri, 14 Oct 2011 08:43:47 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "my husband swears that his commitment is to me and our son. He says being a father is more important to him than the other woman with whom he had an affair. He is making an effort in our marriage. I can't fault him for his actions where our family and our marriage are concerned. And yet, there are times when I will catch him out of the corner of my eye and I see a huge sadness in him. I am almost certain that he misses her. I feel guilty that I am keeping him from her when maybe she truly does make him happy. My husband and I are very different people. I do love him and I know that he loves me but sometimes I feel that we are not that suited to one another. Maybe he has found someone who can truly make him happy. I can't help feeling that maybe I should just bow out and let her have him. Am I crazy?"]]></description>
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<title>Things That Can Contribute To Cheating Or An Affair</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6623969</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6623969</guid>
<pubDate>Thu, 13 Oct 2011 12:48:12 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from spouses who say things like: "my husband can't or won't explain what led up to the affair. I need to understand this because I don't want for this to ever happen to me again. But how can I understand it when he won't or can't give me the information that I need? Can you tell me what sorts of things lead up to an affair?" Another example is something like: "my wife denies that anything was wrong with our marriage. And yet, she cheated on me with another man. She says I was a wonderful, attentive husband and that none of this was my fault. How is that possible? Why would someone cheat on a spouse that they love? Why would someone have an affair when their marriage is good? How does an affair just start up out of the blue?" I will try to address these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Why Would A Man Defend The Other Woman Or Mistress To His Wife?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6621361</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6621361</guid>
<pubDate>Wed, 12 Oct 2011 10:01:46 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from wives who are seething because as they are trying to reconnect with their husband and save their marriage after his affair, but their husband is defending the other woman. The wife often does not understand how her husband could be so stupid as to look at his wife and defend the woman who is the source of all of their problems.]]></description>
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<title>Should I Confront Or Write To The Coworker My Husband Had An Affair With?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6618775</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6618775</guid>
<pubDate>Tue, 11 Oct 2011 11:46:59 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "my husband admitted to me that he cheated with and eventually started up a short affair with a coworker. He said the other woman resisted cutting it off at first. And that's why I feel the need to go see her or maybe send her a letter. I sort of want to see what she looks like and feel her out. But, more than that, I want her to know that this man has a family at home to whom he is responsible and committed. So should I go see her?]]></description>
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<title>Can I Trust My Husband When He Says He Wants To Save Our Marriage After His Cheating And Affair?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6616098</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6616098</guid>
<pubDate>Mon, 10 Oct 2011 12:28:59 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "I caught my husband cheating on me last month. Turns out, the affair had been going on for about three weeks. He immediately apologized and begged for my forgiveness. Not only did he agree to go to counseling, but he found the counselor and made the appointment himself. He's doing and saying all the right things. ]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Can't Chose Between Me And The Other Woman He's Having An Affair With - What Should I Do?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6611339</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6611339</guid>
<pubDate>Fri, 07 Oct 2011 09:49:32 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said "last year, my husband developed a relationship with his assistant. He has known this woman for years and, if I'm being honest, I have always liked her. Last year, one of her children became ill and my husband went out of his way to support her in every way that he could. This was the right thing to do but unfortunately as the result, their relationship turned romantic and an affair began. I found out about their relationship last month. My husband insists that he loves me and doesn't want a divorce.]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Says He Feels Attacked Every Time I Want To Discuss His Affair</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6608937</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6608937</guid>
<pubDate>Thu, 06 Oct 2011 11:17:21 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said "although my husband's affair has challenged me in all sorts of ways and I am still reeling, I have never said or even hinted that I want to end my marriage. In fact, I have made it very clear that once healing has been completed, I want to save my marriage. But in order for us to recover from this, I need to understand so many things about the affair and why it happened. My husband is so reluctant and resistant to sharing anything with me. He says that my questions are just attacks on him.]]></description>
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<title>I Feel Like I've Lost Everything Because Of My Husband's Affair</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6606549</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6606549</guid>
<pubDate>Wed, 05 Oct 2011 14:00:25 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "I feel like I have lost everything since my husband's affair. When I met my husband, I was a successful career woman. Frankly, I had it all. But when we fell in love, we decided that we would settle down and start a family. So I willingly agreed to stay home when we had children. I willingly gave up my job and my lifestyle. I used to wear designer suits and now I wear sweats. I've put on some weight and I'm sure that I'm much less interesting to be around. And after I made all of these sacrifices, what do I find out now? That while I'm at home caring for my husband's two small children, he is out cheating on me. And so now I've gone from a successful, high earning executive to a stay at home mom with an unfaithful husband. It's so unfair and I'm so angry about it. I feel like I've given up (and lost) everything because of this man. And I'm not sure that I want to divorce him because of my children. How ironic is that? And what am I supposed to do?"]]></description>
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<title>Which Questions Should I Ask My Husband About His Cheating And Affair?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6604057</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6604057</guid>
<pubDate>Tue, 04 Oct 2011 11:06:27 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said in part: "I found out two weeks ago that my husband had a five week affair. He claims that it is over. And since he is with me during all hours when he is not working, I tend to believe that he isn't seeing her anymore. But what is less clear is why he did this, what this means for our marriage, and how he really feels about me. I am constantly worrying about how our marriage is going to recover to the point where I can trust him again. In order for me to answer all of these questions, I feel like I need free reign in asking him what I need to know. But when I try to ask him even basic questions, he seems to lose his patience. It's become clear to me that I have to limit my questions to those things I really want and need to know. So which things are most important for me to ask, especially right now?"]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Can't Even Maintain Eye Contact With Me After His Affair</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6601432</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6601432</guid>
<pubDate>Mon, 03 Oct 2011 11:57:08 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "my husband did not admit his affair to me. I actually told him of my suspicions very frankly and he denied them with everything he had. In fact, he acted injured, as if he were appalled that I would suspect or accuse him of such a thing. Still, something was telling me that things weren't right. So I hired a private investigator to follow him. And sure enough, the investigator quickly caught him cheating. Needless to say, I made quite a scene. I know that my husband was very embarrassed but he completely deserved it. Still, there's a small part of me deep down inside that doesn't want to let go of my marriage. I expected my husband to immediately apologize and beg for my forgiveness but he has not done that. Instead, he can't even look at me in the eyes now. How can we even begin to heal when he acts like this? And why is he acting this way in the first place?" I will try to answer these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>I Can't Seem To Stop Making Nasty And Sarcastic Comments About My Husband's Cheating - What Now?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6596779</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6596779</guid>
<pubDate>Fri, 30 Sep 2011 09:35:20 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "my husband's affair has been over for over a year. I should have processed it more than I have by now. We are trying to save our marriage and move on. I truly am committed to doing that but I don't always act like it. I always find myself making mean, sarcastic and snide comments to my husband about his affair. For example, if he calls to say he's caught up at work, I will say something like 'sure you are. How do I even know that is true?' Or, if he so much as looks at another woman I will say 'is she your next affair?' A final example is if my husband compliments me in any way I'll say something like 'yeah sure, I'll bet that's what you were thinking about me when you slept with someone else.' I know these comments are uncalled for and only make things worse, but I can't seem to stop myself."]]></description>
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<title>I Regret Admitting That I Cheated On My Spouse - What Can I Do Now?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6594208</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6594208</guid>
<pubDate>Thu, 29 Sep 2011 08:34:16 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "I cheated on my husband with one of his friends. I am so sorry that I did that and I made a one time mistake that I would never ever repeat. There was drinking involved, but I am not going to use that as an excuse. I struggled with whether I should own up to it. I didn't want to lie to my husband or have something this huge between us. At the same time, my husband had always made it clear that cheating was not something he would tolerate. Still, the guilt was nearly killing me so I went ahead and came clean. I regret it because my husband says that our marriage is over. He says he can not look at me without thinking about what I did. The sad thing is, before I told my husband about the cheating, we were reasonably happy. I know there's no going back now but is there anything that you can do to fix it when you regret telling your spouse that you cheated?"]]></description>
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<title>I Feel Resentful That I'm Expected To Take The High Road After My Husband's Cheating And Affair</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6591578</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6591578</guid>
<pubDate>Wed, 28 Sep 2011 08:36:19 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said, in part: "my husband had an affair last year. Immediately afterward, I kicked him out because I just could not stand the sight of him. I have to admit that I missed him and eventually I realized that I do not want to sacrifice my marriage. So I eventually let him move back home. But once he did, it was like he expected me to just put on a happy face and act as if the affair never happened. I have just not been able to do that. I'm still angry. I'm still disappointed. I need to see a lot of remorse and changes in him. But he doesn't seem to want to hear this. Even my friends are telling me that he isn't going to be patient with me forever. They advise me to take the high road and resist the urges that I have to contact the other woman, or grill my husband about the affair. Why do I always have to take the high road and pretend that everything is fine when it isn't? My husband still hasn't done enough to make this up to me."]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Is So Defensive After I Caught Him Cheating - What Now?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6588978</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6588978</guid>
<pubDate>Tue, 27 Sep 2011 10:04:42 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said "no matter what I say to my husband, I get a very defensive remark back. I'm not always accusing him or even talking about the cheating or affair half of the time, but I still get the same response. It's as if he's constantly expecting me to attack or criticize him. I won't deny that I am angry at and disappointed in him. But what does he expect? He cheated on me and he had an affair. Of course I'm going to have questions and some angry words. I feel that I deserve that. But it's not as if I'm constantly harping on him about it. This doesn't matter though. No matter what I say, how I say it, or what we are talking about, I'm going to get a defensive response. Why is this? And what can I do it about it?" I will try to discuss these questions and concerns in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>What Can I Say To My Husband To Make Him Leave The Other Woman Alone And Come Back To Me?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6586251</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6586251</guid>
<pubDate>Mon, 26 Sep 2011 11:03:51 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from wives who want to get him away from her as soon as possible. Many feel as if they could just figure out the right thing to say, they could perhaps start to swing the momentum in their favor. I recently heard from a wife who said: "my husband claims to still love me, but he says he loves her too. He won't leave her alone no matter how much I beg him to let her go once and for all. It's clear to me that my husband is really with her instead of me. His feelings are for her. His thoughts are of her. How can I get his feelings and his loyalty to come back to me? How can I get him back from her? What exactly do I need to say to make this happen?"]]></description>
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<title>Lessons That My Husband's Affair Taught Me</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6578641</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6578641</guid>
<pubDate>Thu, 22 Sep 2011 09:06:18 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Many of the people who contact me are reeling from the shock of finding out that their spouse has had an affair. Usually, the pain is quite fresh for them and they can not envision that they won't always feel as awful as they do right now. I know that it can be hard to believe that things can improve or that something positive can come out of an affair, but both of these things can be true. I doubt that many women or spouses would tell you that the affair actually ended up being a hugely positive thing or that they are glad the affair happened. However, I think that some will tell you that at least a few positive things happened as the result of it. Dealing with an affair can actually teach you a lot about yourself, your life, and your resilience. I sometimes have people ask me "what did you learn from your husband's affair?" I will try to answer that question in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>I'm Obsessed With Getting Revenge After My Husband Cheated - How Can I Stop?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6576055</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6576055</guid>
<pubDate>Wed, 21 Sep 2011 09:38:36 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said, in part: "I'm sort of obsessed on getting revenge on the other woman and my husband. I know that this type of behavior is beneath me. And when I did switch my husband's sugar bowl for his coffee with salt, when I canceled his sports channel, and when I gave his golf clubs to goodwill, these things didn't really make me feel the relief or the joy that I would have hoped. I know that I shouldn't be thinking about these things but I can't seem to help myself. I fantasize about them cheating on each other or the relationship going sour. I want them both to fail and feel pain. And if I can do anything to facilitate that, I am tempted to do it. I know two wrongs don't make a right. So how can I stop feeling this way. And when will I stop being so focused on revenge?"]]></description>
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<title>I Cheated On My Spouse - What Can I Do To Help With Recovery And Healing?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6573350</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6573350</guid>
<pubDate>Tue, 20 Sep 2011 09:50:38 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a husband who said in part: "I deeply regret cheating on my spouse. I have hurt her deeply and she doesn't trust me any longer. It hurts me so much to see this previously happy and loving woman become a shell of herself. My wife was always upbeat and light hearted, but because of what I have done, she is angry, bitter, and her outgoing personality is gone. She is hurting deeply and I don't know how to help her. Every time I try, she rejects me or acts resentful so I end up not knowing if I have done more harm than good. But when I leave her alone instead and give her time, she takes this to mean I don't love her. Nothing could be further from the truth. I would give anything to help her, but I don't know how. What are some things I can do to help my wife after I made the grave mistake of cheating on her?"]]></description>
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<title>Writing A Letter To The Other Woman: Should You?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6570697</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6570697</guid>
<pubDate>Mon, 19 Sep 2011 08:42:39 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from women who feel as if they just need to contact the woman who cheated with their husband. Some of these wives want to confront the other woman face to face. They want to try to read her eyes and evaluate her truthfulness. Others suspect that a face to face meeting would be too difficult or that it wouldn't really settle anything. So, they decide that maybe writing the other woman a letter or sending her an email might be viable or preferable option. And most of the time, I agree that avoiding a face to face confrontation is the way to go. Of all of the people who contact me about this issue, I can only think of a few instances where a meeting with the other woman turned out to be a good thing. You often go into it thinking that having your say or facing her is going to give you closure when in fact, often times, it does the opposite. It leaves you with more questions because she won't give you straight answers or she gives answers that are meant to hurt you or to make herself look better.]]></description>
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<title>What If My Husband Chased The Woman He Cheated With? What If He Started It?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6565833</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6565833</guid>
<pubDate>Fri, 16 Sep 2011 09:21:15 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[She said in part: "the woman who my husband had an affair with is the neighborhood flirt. She's a single mom and a gold digger and she has always flirted with all of the husbands. When I found out that it was her that he'd been cheating with, I wasn't all that surprised. I mean, I was surprised that he was cheating but I wasn't surprised it was this woman because she seems to be after every man in town. She's the type of woman who washes her car in a bikini to try to get attention. And I just assumed that she chased after my husband until he finally gave in because he's successful and would be quite the catch for her. But, he reluctantly admitted to me that he was the one who pursued her.]]></description>
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<title>I'm Afraid That If I Give My Husband All The Details Of The Affair, It Will Only Make Things Worse</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6560561</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6560561</guid>
<pubDate>Wed, 14 Sep 2011 09:51:41 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said in part: "I cheated on my husband with our son's sports coach. Of course my husband has a lot of questions. He says he wants to know every detail about the affair and says that if I'm not willing to give him this information, he's not sure if he even wants to try to save our marriage. He says that I have to prove that I am willing to be honest with him and disclose everything. I do want to save my marriage. I do love my husband. But I am very scared to tell him all of the details of my affair. In truth, I was the one who came on to the other guy. I was the one who started it. I don't want to tell me husband how I met the other guy at hotels and did things with him that I rarely do with my husband. My husband is going to be so mad and hurt by this. Is there any way around this? Because if I do tell him everything I feel like this information is just going to make things worse."]]></description>
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<title>Is There Anything That I Should Try To Do To End My Husband's Affair?</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6557927</link>
<guid>http://EzineArticles.com/6557927</guid>
<pubDate>Tue, 13 Sep 2011 08:52:31 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said, in part: "I need to figure out a way to end my husband's affair. I've thought of many devious strategies including sending him fake texts or emails from the other woman breaking off the relationship or faking photos of the other woman with another man to make my husband think that the other woman is cheating on him. I've also thought about giving my husband an ultimatum that he has to choose between her or me. The problem though is that I'm afraid that he will ultimately chose her. Once he told me that he would end it with her to save our marriage but it later became pretty obvious that he was still seeing her behind my back. So I feel like I have to do something dramatic to end this affair on my own. What can I do to give myself the best chance of ending it once and for all?"]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Refuses To Tell Me Why He Cheated And Had An Affair</title>
<link>http://EzineArticles.com/6555268</link>
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<pubDate>Mon, 12 Sep 2011 09:47:49 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "I keep approaching my husband about explaining to me what lead up to the affair and what might have contributed to it. I feel like I really need to understand his reasoning and his feelings. I actually thought that our marriage was a good one and that we were happy. My husband says that he doesn't disagree with this. He says that he was happy for the most part and that he doesn't fully understand why he cheated on me. When I continue to question him, eventually he gets mad and blows up and tells that he refuses to continue to discuss this. He's basically saying that he can't or won't explain the affair to me and that I really need to just drop it. He says he refuses to spend the rest of his life living under a microscope and having every bit of his behavior examined and analyzed like he's a horrible person. I need answers and he either can't or won't give them to me."]]></description>
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<title>Have Trust Issues Since Your Husband Cheated or Had An Affair? These Insights Might Help</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 09 Sep 2011 09:52:28 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who described this struggle this way: "Ever since I found out about my husband's affair, I've pretty much suspected everyone of wrong doing. My husband kept the affair a secret for six months. I've known the woman he cheated on me with for years. She knows me intimately and yet she went behind my back and cheated with my husband. Not only this, but mutual friends knew about this and kept it a secret. Even the waitress at our favorite restaurant knew what was going on and yet no one said anything whatsoever to me. I feel so betrayed on so many levels. And I feel like most people will smile while lying right to your face. I find myself distrusting people who have given me no reason whatsoever to doubt them. I am constantly worrying that good and kind people are lying to me. I know that this is so silly but I can't seem to help it. What can I do about these trust issues since my husband's affair. Do they ever go away?"]]></description>
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<title>I Cheated On My Husband - Should I Tell Him?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 08 Sep 2011 09:04:27 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I heard from a wife who said: "I cheated on my husband with an old boyfriend from high school. It was incredibly stupid and immature. I don't know what is wrong with me and why I'm so starved for attention. Basically, he paid attention to me and complimented me and that was all it took. I always have this sinking feeling that somehow my husband is going to find out from someone else or maybe the guy will try to contact me again and my husband will pick up. The other consideration is that my guilt is affecting my marriage. I always find myself acting strangely. My husband has asked me why I'm so jumpy and of course that just makes my paranoia worse. I hate myself at this point and I really do want to tell him. But every time I think about telling him, I also think about how this is absolutely going to devastate him. So what is the best call? Should I tell him I cheated because it's the right think to do even if it will risk my marriage? Or do I stay quiet and live with the guilt?"]]></description>
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<title>How Can I Get My Spouse To Take Me Back After I Had An Affair? Tips And Advice That Might Help</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 07 Sep 2011 09:54:08 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife on who said: "I cheated on husband with a guy from work. It was only a one night stand and I never in my wildest dreams thought my husband would find out but he did. It has all but destroyed our marriage. My husband will barely talk to me and he certainly won't touch me, show me any affection, or have sex with me. He says he has a hard time even looking at me without thinking about the other guy. He says the thought of me being at work with this other guy makes him literally ill. I told my husband that I would quit my job if that's what it would take to get him back. But he told me that he can't assure me that he would take me back even if I quit my job. I keep telling him I would do anything if he would take me back. But he says he can't tell me what to do because he doesn't know if he'd ever be willing to reconcile with me. So where does that leave me? What can I do?"]]></description>
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<title>Why Should I Stay Married After My Husband Cheated And Had An Affair?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 06 Sep 2011 10:00:22 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from people who are trying to decide if they want to attempt to stay married after their husband cheats or has an affair. As many women today make their own money and don't really need a man to support them, it's easy to wonder if there is any decent reason to stay with a man who has cheated on you. I recently heard from a wife who said, in part: "my husband cheated on me last year by having an affair with my assistant. I actually make more money than him. Our children are in college and grown. I'm not dependent on him financially or for my happiness. I was talking about this with my friend and she said 'why in the world would you stay married? Because you don't need him for money or for the kids anymore so why would you want to stay with a man who cheated on you?' I wasn't sure how to respond or to answer these questions because I realized that she was right. What incentive do I even have to stay married to this man? Am I stupid to even consider staying with him?"]]></description>
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<title>Should I Tell My Husband That I Know He Had An Affair In The Past?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 02 Sep 2011 09:43:41 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I sometimes hear from wives who either innocently discover their husband's affair by accident or find out through a little spying. Often, their husband doesn't have any idea about the wife's discovery because she doesn't come out with this information or doesn't confront him right away. And there are times, when the wife discovers the affair when it is already over. I recently heard from a wife who said: "I found Facebook messages on my husband's computer which clearly showed me that he had an affair last year. However, I was able to follow all of the messages and determine that the relationship has been over for months. Our marriage was struggling at the time he was cheating, but it is much better now. So now I am wondering whether I should confront him about the affair and ensure that we struggle all over again. Or do I just continue trying to work on our marriage and be grateful that things are better between us?"]]></description>
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<title>Why Is The Other Woman Lying About And Denying The Affair?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 01 Sep 2011 09:38:52 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said "my husband admitted that he has been having an affair with one of our neighbors. He said at first they were just good friends. But eventually the affair turned emotional and just lately, there have been a few physical encounters. He admitted this to me because he didn't want it go any further and he wants to save our marriage. He showed me a few emails between them where they were flirting back and forth. Yesterday I was driving out of my neighborhood when I saw the other woman getting her mail. And I told her I knew everything. She looked at me as if she didn't have any idea what I was talking about. She said that it was just a very friendly relationship and that my husband must have 'gotten the wrong idea.' How is having physical encounters with someone getting the wrong idea? Why is this woman lying to me? And how can I get her to admit the truth?" I'll try to answer all of these questions in the following article.]]></description>
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<title>Why Does My Husband's Mistress Have So Much Power Over Him?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 31 Aug 2011 09:54:35 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said, in part: "I just don't get the hold this other woman has on my husband or the power she seems to have over him. My husband is a smart and successful man. He doesn't usually take orders from anyone. He isn't usually easily impressed. And yet he's willing to risk nearly everything for this woman. He's willing to jump through all sorts of hoops or give up his family just to make her happy. I just do not understand it. Is she always going to have this sort of power over him?"]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Is Leaving Me To Go And Live With The Other Woman He Cheated With - What Now?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 30 Aug 2011 09:42:47 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "my husband has been having an eight month affair with a woman from his work. At first, he told me he would end things with her and try to save our marriage. But eventually, it became quite obvious that he wasn't giving her up. He would still call, text, and email her. Eventually I confronted him and he admitted that he just wasn't sure which of us he really wanted. He told me that although he wanted me too, he just couldn't stay away from her. Last week, he came home and announced that he couldn't live a lie anymore so he was going to move out and go to live with her. I am just beside myself because it looks like he has made his choice. I am sure that this is the beginning of the end of our marriage and eventually he will distance himself from our kids and be more of a father to her kids than his own. This whole thing makes me sick. What can I do? Do I just have to accept this?"]]></description>
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<title>How Do I Make My Husband Feel My Pain After His Cheating And Affair?</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 29 Aug 2011 08:42:37 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from wives who tell me that they would give anything for their husband to feel the pain that his cheating has forced upon them. They often feel as if he really has no idea of the pain that they are in, nor does he have any clue as to how they really feel. I recently heard from a wife who said: "in the first couple of weeks after my husband's affair, he seemed genuinely sorry and empathetic to me. But after a couple of weeks, he seemed to lose his patience. What he doesn't seem to get is that I do want to move forward but I can't seem to. He has no idea what it's like to wonder if your spouse still desires you or why he has to go to someone else to get what he should be getting and wanting from his wife. I want him to feel that same insecurity, pain and desperation. So how can I make him understand how this feels and encourage him to feel my pain?"]]></description>
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<title>Common Reasons People Stay Married After One Of Them Cheats Or Has An Affair</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 26 Aug 2011 09:14:02 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from couples who are trying to decide if they're going to save or end their marriage after one of them has an affair. They often aren't sure if the problems that lead to the affair are insurmountable or if the damage that it caused inspired pain that is impossible to overcome. Whether to save your marriage or walk away from it is not a decision that I can make for anyone. It's a very personal decision which is influenced by many factors and it is often not yours alone to make. So in the following article, I'll go over some of the common wrong reasons that I see people use when they chose to stay together after an affair. And I will also go over the right reasons that people cite as well.]]></description>
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<title>What Does It Mean When Your Husband Says He Loves You But Isn't In Love With You After An Affair?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 25 Aug 2011 09:14:00 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "my husband had a four month affair. He finally confessed to me and said he would "try" to save our marriage. But he doesn't appear to be trying all that hard. I don't think he's still seeing the other woman. But he's not putting much effort into the marriage and he doesn't seem that into or attracted to me. I finally broke down and asked him if he still loved me. The answer he gave me was 'I love you but I'm not in love with you.' What does that even mean? Then I asked him if he was "in love" with the other woman and he finally admitted that yes, he was but he knew that they couldn't be together and he knew their relationship was wrong so he was going to make our marriage work. What good is hanging onto the threads of your marriage when your husband isn't even in love with you anymore? To me, that sounds like a marriage in name only. And that doesn't seem like much a victory to me."]]></description>
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<title>Why Do Married Men Claim To Hate Their Wives When They're Cheating But Then Go Back To Them?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 24 Aug 2011 08:45:20 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Believe it or not, I get this question quite a bit. Sometimes, the "other woman" who has been cheating with the husband asks the question. And sometimes, I hear this question from the wife who is hearing from someone else that her husband has been claiming to hate her at the same time he was cheating on her. An example of what I might hear from a wife in this situation is something like: "the other woman found out my husband was married and reached out to me. She told me that my husband claimed that he hated me and that I was fat, ugly, and lazy. He portrayed me as an evil person and he painted our marriage as a living hell for him. Well, if all of this is true, why is he claiming that he still loves me and asking me to save our marriage? Why is he still at home with me, then?"]]></description>
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<title>How Can A Husband Prove Himself After Cheating Or Having An Affair?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 18 Aug 2011 09:50:34 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I sometimes hear from men who are looking for ways to get back in their wives' good graces after infidelity, cheating, or having an affair. Some feel as though they've tried everything in their power to prove how sincere and sorry they are to their wife, but nothing works. I recently heard from a husband who said: "I've done everything that I know how to do to prove my love and commitment to my wife after my affair. But she is still so furious with and disappointed in me. She said she doesn't know what she wants to do about our marriage and she isn't making any commitment to me because she just has to wait and see how she feels. I have brought her expensive gifts, said I'm sorry a million times, and constantly tell her how much I love her but she still looks at me with suspicion. I am starting to wonder if I am going to spend the rest of my life this way. How can a man prove himself after infidelity once and for all? Because I feel like I'm not making any progress."]]></description>
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<title>What Type Of Man Would Cheat On His Wife Or Have An Affair?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 17 Aug 2011 08:40:50 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear from wives who have no idea what has come over their husband and what contributed most to him having an affair. Many wives tell me that they are not sure if they ever really knew their husbands at all because the man they knew would not lie, cheat, or betray them in this way. When you picture a stereotypical cheating man, you likely picture a shifty eyed, deplorable type of person that can't look at you with a straight face and never says anything that is truly sincere. I recently heard from a wife who said, in part: "I am so shocked at and disappointed in my husband. He has always been a person of integrity and honor. Yet now I am finding out that he has been having an affair for the last four weeks. He went behind my back. He lied to me. And he lied to her. He says he's sorry now, but he's probably sorry that he's been caught. What kind of man has an affair? Because I feel like the one beside me is now a stranger and that I've been wrong about him all along."]]></description>
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<title>Can You Have A Good Marriage Even If Your Husband Cheated Or Had An Affair?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 16 Aug 2011 08:37:53 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said: "my husband confessed to cheating on me for three weeks. He insists that it wasn't an affair because it was all about sex only. He says he didn't mean for it to happen and now it's over. He's very reluctant to talk about the details behind it. I want to know what was so wrong in our marriage to make him risk every thing. He insists that there was nothing wrong with me or our marriage. In fact, he insists that our marriage was a good one. I have to admit that I thought the same thing. But I don't think it's possible to have a good marriage if someone cheats. I think that, by definition alone, once infidelity occurs, you have a bad marriage automatically. My husband says this is ridiculous. Who is right?"]]></description>
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<title>Tips On Dealing With Depression After Your Husband's Affair</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 15 Aug 2011 08:53:11 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from a wife who said something like, "I'm afraid I've fallen into a depression after my husband's affair. I try not to let this get me down and I try to look on the bright side of things. I still have my children and I still have my health and extended family. One person's mistaken actions should not be able to bring my life to a stand still in the way that it has. I shouldn't allow him to derail me like this. I have many things to be grateful for. We're trying to save our marriage and we're making real progress. But, many of the joys of my life are now tainted. He took her to one of our favorite restaurants which I can no longer stand to step foot in. She goes to my gym. Her son plays on the same football league as mine. So I'm always reminded of what happened. I always have to look the past right in the face."]]></description>
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<title>I Don't Completely Understand My Husband's Infidelity - But He Says I Should Let It Go - Should I?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 12 Aug 2011 08:32:29 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I recently heard from wife who said, in part: "my husband has tried to explain to me that he isn't entirely sure why he had an affair. He says that it might have been because he was trying to make himself feel better or to make his life seem more exciting. He keeps hinting that he was at a bad place in his life at the time. He says he can't just make me a list of reasons why he cheated because he doesn't entirely understand it himself. And he says that my continuing to harp on knowing the exact reasons make him very frustrated and discouraged. He bluntly tells me he wishes that I would just 'let it go' instead of dwelling on 'why answers' that we might never have. So should I let it go? Is it that important to completely understand why he had an affair?"]]></description>
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<title>My Husband Admitted To Real And Deep Feelings For The Other Woman - What Can I Do Now?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 10 Aug 2011 09:16:09 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[I often hear with women who are trying to break the spell that the "other woman" or mistress has over their husband. I recently heard from a wife who said, "three weeks ago, my husband admitted to having an affair with a woman from his gym. He seemed very sincere. But he's been sullen and withdrawn. After my asking him what was wrong with him for several days, he finally admitted that he has 'deep feelings' for this other woman and he's confused and conflicted between his loyalty to and love for me and his feelings for her. I feel like I really don't stand a chance because of his perceived feelings for her. He hasn't even known her for very long. What can I do about this? How can I make him see that these feelings probably aren't even real? He doesn't even know who this woman really is. I had a friend of mine do a background check on her and she has a bankruptcy and some foreclosures, neither of which my husband knows anything about it. How can I make him see her for who she really is?"]]></description>
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<title>How Does the Mistress Feel Once the Affair Is Over?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 09 Aug 2011 12:02:35 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Most every wife who has ever struggled after an affair knows that thinking about the mistress or other woman can take up a huge chunk of your time. You usually have all sorts of questions about her. You want to know who she is, what she looks like, what makes her tick, and why, of all people on earth, she chose your husband. While the affair is going on (or before we are sure that it has ended) thoughts of her can almost invade our regular every day life to a level that borders on obsession. But what happens when the affair is over? Does she just ride off into the sunset? Does she find another married man to prey on? Does she vow to change her ways and eventually find a single guy to settle down with? Does she pine over your husband and try to scheme up ways that she can get back into your life?]]></description>
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