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<title>Patricia Hubbard - EzineArticles Expert Author</title>
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<description><![CDATA[Widowed, mother of 6, (4 natural and 2 step.) Have lead a Support Group for those who are separated, divorced or widowed, for the past 13 years. Have incorporated the nationally known Divorce/Care and Grief/Share program into our support system.
working on my ebook directed towards widowed people.
Have written newsletters in the past for numerous organizations and am presently writing a newsletter for the Separated/Divorced and Widowed. 
My writing is aimed at helping folks to get through the pain and move on with their lives.]]></description>
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<title>Responsibility For Blowing The Doors Off Of A Marriage</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 14 Aug 2009 16:29:52 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[When folks plot to deceive their husband or wife, when they go looking outside the bonds of marriage for greener pastures, it is like using explosives to blow off the door of a safe! The plan may be plotted in such a way that the other partner will not discover the unfaithful one, at first. The wayward one may be feeling pretty good that they managed to fool their spouse, but eventually the explosives will be ultimately found and the doors will be blown off the marriage. A messy, painful result will be had for all. Regardless of what anyone tells you, even the unfaithful person is going to eventually suffer]]></description>
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<title>Fear, Negativity, Revenge and Other Imaginary Thoughts, Are They Legitimate?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 13 Aug 2009 22:10:42 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Is fear of your impending divorce situation causing you undue distress? Are you worried about your job safety or some other nagging possibility? Is all this necessary? Our Priest, Father Jim recently made a joke about fear. He said the letters of the word, FEAR stood for "Forget Everything and Run." Oh, if life were that simple.  But wait a minute... maybe it is! Feelings of fear are really a belief in something that is not yet real! I will repeat that...Feelings of fear are a belief in something that is not yet real!]]></description>
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<title>It's Father's Day and You're a Divorced Man - How Will Your Children Remember It?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 19 Jun 2009 13:33:48 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[If you are a divorced man with children and it's your day to have your children with you, it is imperative that you make a concerted effort to connect with your children in a way that is memorable. Plan ahead. It can and does get sticky sometimes when the marriage is broken and hard feelings exist between the partners, but if you make the effort to connect with your child that could be the deciding factor that shows you do care. Father's Day is not just about gifts to dad.]]></description>
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<title>Can You Really Afford That Divorce, Jim? 12 Reasons Not to Have an Affair</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 19 Jun 2009 11:58:27 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Jim succumbed to the temptation of a co-worker and ruined his life. Those come-hither smiles, the eye to eye communications, the suggestive jokes and the come-ons, overcame all of his defenses. Before his common senses awakened, he found himself in an affair.  Since his wife was not for forgiving him, what now?]]></description>
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<title>Ah, Easter! Is There Resurrection For The Divorced And Widowed?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 03 Apr 2009 11:45:28 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Holidays for the divorced or widowed can be a very difficult time, alone.  Old memories of good times and happiness that has disappeared, can bring tears of regret and pain.  Could a change of attitude make a difference?  Is it possible that  the month of April could be YOUR time of celebration, YOUR Resurrection?  After having experienced divorce, separation or to have become widowed, you may feel as if you have been crucified, you may even have come to a point of wishing you would die, just to put an end to the suffering. If your "love" has either announced that they are leaving you or perhaps they really did die, you may have been left feeling empty and alone, devoid of a reason for carrying on...]]></description>
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<title>An Answer to Divorced, Separated, and Widowed Women Feeling Safe From Attackers</title>
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<pubDate>Sat, 21 Mar 2009 12:39:23 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[No woman needs to feel fear again if she is properly empowered with self-defense measures.   When divorce comes to visit, many things change. But one condition that most do not want to think of is the fear of being alone.  A woman who is newly divorced, separated, widowed may not admit it, but living alone is quite different from when they had the benefit of a husband in the picture.  But, there is an answer.]]></description>
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<title>Could Learning The Art Of Conversation Save Your Marriage?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 10 Feb 2009 15:39:46 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[So often we hear folks say that when told that their partner wants a divorce, it comes as a complete shock!  The "offended" partner claims that the other one has "ignored them" or "does not value them as a partner" or that "they are abusive," etc.  Meanwhile the unsuspecting partner is stunned by the accusations and in some cases doesn't even know there was a problem.  What does the art of conversation have to do with that?]]></description>
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<title>Divorced and Widowed - Alike, But Different</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 05 Feb 2009 16:48:00 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Some think that the death of a lover and the death of a marriage are the same, but that is far from the truth. The widowed are automatically surrounded by those who care for and try to soothe them. The divorced, however, usually experience a long and bumpy road with not as much hope for the future.  Both will experience shock, denial, bargaining, depression, maybe some anger and regret. The experiences of the emotional ups and downs are similar, but for the divorced, bitterness, anger and pain can linger for years unless the wounded finds support and understanding.]]></description>
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<title>When Divorced Or Widowed Folks Pray, Is God Really The Grand Puppeteer In The Sky?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 23 Dec 2008 10:57:53 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[So often we hear expressions like: "God doesn't listen to me. He never answers my prayers." or "Why did my husband die if God loves me so much?" Some blame God when they don't receive that which they have prayed so diligently. Sometimes we are told "No." be it, by our parent, our boss or spouse. But do we blame God for that? Some say "God is in Control!" but when He says "No" they want to blame Him for their pain. Guess what? God is not the Grand Puppeteer in the sky. And God does say "No!" sometimes.]]></description>
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<title>During a Situation of War, God Really is on Our Side - But Occasionally it Does Not Seem That Way</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 19 Nov 2008 10:58:58 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[When as a country we become involved in a war, we would normally, be behind our own forces to win. We would pray to our God to protect us and let us be triumphant. Yet, the opposing forces could be praying to their God, also for the same result. ]]></description>
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<title>Thanksgiving? Gratitude? Why Should I Be Thankful, When I'm Hurting So Badly?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 30 Oct 2008 08:30:17 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Being alone whether divorced or widowed during holidays like thanksgiving or Christmas can create negative, angry emotions. a feeling that everyone is happy but me. But a little self searching can uncover many "little things" that we often overlook. We are so blessed if we just fish around the big stuff. Gratitude is the gift we give ourselves.]]></description>
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<title>Divorce Care - 7 Things to do to Heal Your Heart</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 11 Sep 2008 16:45:41 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Being divorced is not the end of the world. You are not alone unless you choose to be.  There are steps you can take to make life a little more bearable. Sharing with a support group or close friend will lead you to some comfort. Following are 7 actions you can take to overcome your grief. Continuing to lie in a heap on the floor will accomplish nothing. So take a look.]]></description>
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<title>Making the Break From an Abuser</title>
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<pubDate>Sun, 03 Aug 2008 21:36:48 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Escaping from an abusive relationship must be planned out with care and in safety. Knowing who to trust and what to take and when to leave, are essential.   Sometimes gathering courage to leave must have the support of a Safe House or Counselor.  Incarcerated abusers can find bail and return with a vengeance, so leaving must be done with utmost care and secrecy. Abuse is not acceptable for anyone, no one deserves to be abused.]]></description>
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<title>Abuse, Mental, Emotional Or Physical Abuse Should Not Be Tolerated</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 01 Aug 2008 15:05:06 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Too often, trusting folks fall into the abuse trap, innocently.  They may be made to feel that the other person in their life is loving and caring only to be rudely awakened, after a marriage or commitment, that they truly married a "monster." Facing that fact is difficult as their self-image is sometimes squashed into nothingness. Finding the courage to leave, can be a lifesaver.]]></description>
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<title>Divorce From A Different Perspective - 7 Don'ts When Going Through A Divorce</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 18 Jul 2008 07:53:12 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Here are 7 Don'ts for divorcing people. Some that may never enter the mind until it is too late. Making verbal promises, accepting the word of your betrayer, trusting your spouse's lawyer instead of your own, are a few examples. Following are some suggestions to keep in mind if you and your spouse have decided to go your separate ways.]]></description>
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<title>The Realities Of A Divorce, Is It Really Worth It? #2</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 15 Jul 2008 09:39:19 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[When divorces happen, it is not all about the adults involved!  Children are the mostly silent, victims of the chaos that is caused by the disintegration of a marriage. Children have no say so in the drastic changes that occur in their lives, let alone the pain that they suffer, also. This is a wake up article that points out the realities of divorce when children are involved.]]></description>
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<title>The Realities Of A Divorce, Is It Really Worth It? - #1</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 15 Jul 2008 09:37:46 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[If by chance you are pondering divorce, think again. Unloading a spouse does not mean you will have a carefree, happy, new life!  Following is a list of the many unexpected losses you will suffer in the process. This is two part article, with surprising information that most divorcing couples never expect.]]></description>
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<title>Divorce and Communication, Are They Connected?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 10 Jun 2008 11:33:52 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[It would be interesting to learn that many divorces could have been eliminated if couples had only learned the Art of Communication. A lack of understanding of what a partner really meant by what they said, could have been the cause of built up anger, resentment and eventual dislike of the marriage scene. Learning to listen and ask when one does not quite understand their partner, can be a marriage saving technique.]]></description>
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<title>Ending the Marriage, When You're the Party Who Chooses Divorce, What About the Guilt?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 30 May 2008 15:37:50 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[All too often when a person chooses to leave a spouse and become divorced, the automatic assumption is that they are a selfish, self-centered person.  From the outside looking in, that may appear true, but many times the leaver does so for their own protection. Judgment without the facts is not ours to claim. Many times that which goes on behind closed doors is quite different from the presentation to the outside world. The judged person is sometimes the innocent victim. James' story demonstrates that.]]></description>
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<title>What Does The Bible Say About Divorce? And Is That The Last Word?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 30 May 2008 10:08:25 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Many people who did not expect to ever be called a divorced person and who did not believe in divorce, find themselves in the worldwind of a broken marriage. those who believe in the Bible message that divorce is wrong, spend many days and nights questioning why and how it happened to them. Others consider themselves banished from the eyes of God because of it. This article shows specifically where in the Bible that divorce is recognized as legitimate in some cases. It can bring peace to those who suffer guilt needlessly.]]></description>
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<title>Some Don'ts For Divorcing Parents - Your Children Are Not Getting A Divorce, You Are!</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 06 May 2008 10:11:22 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[All too often, divorcing parents are so wrapped up in their own pain, they sometimes forget that their children are in grief also; grief of losing the access to one of their parents, grief of moving from their home, trying to make new friends and adjusting to a new school, etc.   Parents are angry with each other and react in ways that are detrimental to the children. following are some negatives that parents should avoid.]]></description>
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<title>Divorced And Widowed Men Suffer Too, When They Lose A Wife</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 27 Mar 2008 10:50:37 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Support groups normally attract women with few men participating. But the fact is that men suffer as much as women when a marriage is destroyed or a spouse passes away.  Men who have a high self-esteem and a general knowledge of who and what they are will be seen participating in the group.  these men recover more quickly than those who abstain.  "Big boys don't cry" is a lie that we have forced on men from boyhood. It goes against nature to stifle real emotions and can lead to illness if left unchecked.]]></description>
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<title>Single, Alone and Why Not?</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 25 Feb 2008 15:25:03 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Singles sometimes walk around with a feeling of inferiority, just because they are single.  Society seems to shout you must be connected to another person or you are somehow missing "something."  Examining one's own attitude about living alone can be the way to freedom from that defeating notion. Being alone can be a time to really find out one's own value as an individual. Looking for someone we can love, as opposed to someone to love "me" can be that freeing source.]]></description>
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<title>Alone and Valentine's Day Is Here - You Be A Real Sweetheart, Volunteer To Do A Good Thing</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 11 Feb 2008 11:07:44 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Being single on Valentine's Day can be a day of sadness because one is alone or a better choice would be to make someone else's day a little brighter. Instead of letting the romantic music, the ads for gifts of chocolate and love poems of undieing love, turn your heart to creating a smile on someone's face. You Be A Valentine! Use the following suggestions or let your own imagination be your guide.]]></description>
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<title>Do Dogs Really Go To Heaven?  I Think, Yes</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:28:11 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[In the "olden days" when I was a child, some parents did not afford the same respect to family pets that most do today. Animals were not to be allowed to live IN the house. Their place was outside! I did not think that was fair. With that in mind when I had my own children I made sure they were allowed to have "in house" pets. When a pet died, we assured our children that their pets would definitely go to Heaven.  Recently when one of my "Grand dogs" died, that fact was brought to the forefront. Belle came back to make sure I knew that. DOGS DO GO TO HEAVEN!]]></description>
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<title>Change Can Lead to Letting Go</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 02 Jan 2008 16:15:03 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Changes brought about because of separation, divorce or widowhood can be a daunting situation to face.  Most like to know what the next day will bring and drastic changes arouse emotions that we sometimes do not want to deal with.  Change, however can lead to a new and interesting understanding of our deepest emotions and desires. You may discover that change produces a "new you."]]></description>
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<title>The Christmas That Was Saved by Pecans</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 28 Nov 2007 08:55:39 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[For the newly single person, the holidays can be painful, frightening and not necessarily a good time. Visions of the good ole days at Christmas seem disappointing.  Lack of a helpmate, lack of money, fear for the new year, seem to be the dominating thoughts. But when someone reaches out and extends a hand of kindness, caring and love, suddenly, the joy of the season can be restored. The Christ element in Christmas removes the fear and replaces it with a new understanding of the season.]]></description>
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<title>An Abusive Relationship - Is That Your Choice?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 24 Oct 2007 08:40:47 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Domestic, emotional, physical and sexual abuse goes on behind closed doors at an alarming rate, in many homes. It creates a breakdown in the minds of the victims to a point that they lose any amount of self-esteem. Some become hostage in their own homes. They learn to not even view themselves as significant in any way and therefore accept that this is their way of life. Women, children and even men, are sometimes told they deserve it by the perpetrator and eventually they come to believe that. There is help.  There are ways to escape this type of treachery.]]></description>
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<title>Finding Mr Or Ms &quot;Right&quot; - How Do You Do That?</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 10 Oct 2007 17:32:00 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Many people innocently believe that Mr. Or Ms. Right will just magically drop into their lives if they are lucky.  Most will search and hope and become disillusioned because it just never seems to happen to them. There is a method that will cut the odds. It requires a little personal introspection, patience and just a smidgen of luck.]]></description>
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<title>Discovering Who You Are Through Creativity</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 21 Sep 2007 16:10:24 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[So often people insist that they have no creative abilities.  They cannot look past the issue of self-esteem. They think they are not "good enough" to have a creative characteristic in their own bodies. In truth,  everyone is capable of creativity because of the fact that they entered this earthly realm from the God of Creativity. By that heritage, we are all the tools of God's Creativity. We need only to seek and find.]]></description>
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<title>Grief On Your Plate? Depressed? Stewing In Your Own Juices?</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 17 Sep 2007 14:45:11 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[A person in grief can become depressed.  They feel alone and helpless to change the mental stew they are swimming in. Grief is oppressive, it seems in control and causes a veil of pressure that is hard to comprehend, much less, remove. Loved ones and friend who are aware, should suggest a physical exam and one on one counseling, if the person will cooperate. Compassion, rather than demands, is the necessary tactic here.]]></description>
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<title>Single, Separated, Divorced - Has A Bad Relationship Left You Feeling Like An Out Of Air, Balloon?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 07 Sep 2007 11:47:42 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Failed relationships sometimes leave us with a sense of failure. Some have a difficult time moving on with their life because of the resulting loss of self-esteem.  They don't understand why the person they loved doesn't love them anymore. The flattened self-worth feels like an out of air balloon. Following are a few ways to reinflate your balloon.]]></description>
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<title>Widowed or Divorced, The Grief is Incredible - 5 Do's, 5 Don'ts, 5 Realities</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 20 Aug 2007 14:59:50 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Widowed AND Divorced people suffer grief when they lose a spouse, and the grief can be incredible. Normally some would not think a divorce would bring about grief, but Elizabeth Kubler-Ross says that the 5 stages of grief apply to broken marriages and relationships as well as the death of a loved one.  Learn about the 5 stages of grief and things to do to make them less painful.]]></description>
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<title>Back To School Jitters, Is Your Child Apprehensive About Going Back To School?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 16 Aug 2007 11:14:32 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[In preparing for the back to school rush, single parents sometimes forget their child may be suffering from the angst of meeting new people, new teachers and new experiences.  That along with the anxiety of parental disagreements, can create a mountain of confusion. When a parent is able to relate their understanding of these feelings, to his/her own reluctance when entering a new job, new environment or meeting new people, they may be able to change their child's lack of enthusiasm when re-entering school in the Fall. ]]></description>
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<title>Grief Denial, Pretending You Do Not Have Grief About Your Loss Of Love Or Marriage - Is It Anger?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 31 Jul 2007 16:27:47 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Have you lost a love to divorce or death?  Are you still unhappy, unable to make decisions, feel as something is wrong with your life?  Does it seem like you just can't move on?  Could you be angry?  Grief has many faces, and anger is one that many will deny having any part in, but being stuck in anger will stall your moving on to a new and better life.]]></description>
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<title>Personal Grief Can Lead You To Compassion</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 24 Jul 2007 09:13:53 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Growing through personal grief can help one to become a more compassionate person.  I know because personal experiences with death and loss changed my grief into compassion. What seemed as insurmountable, challenges taught me to be strong and fearless in the face of death.  Your grief can be your step forward to new life.]]></description>
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<title>Grief Does Not Have to Be a Life Sentence - You Are Allowed to Be Happy Again!</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 19 Jul 2007 14:01:06 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Grieving the loss of a love is an essential part of moving on with one's life. But there are those who imply that grief has a number to it, a certain time by which one must act and move in such a way as to act "properly." Not true! Grief is personal and specific to each individual. Only the grieving can judge how long is appropriate to them. Life goes on around us and we have a choice to go stagnant or to rejoin the living.]]></description>
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<title>Grief Is Not Just About Losing A Lover</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 17 Jul 2007 16:29:17 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Grief can come in many forms.  Most think only of death as the precursor for grief, but other losses such as losing a limb, a job, a home, finances, divorce a can all bring about the same emotional downswing.  Learning how to deal with any of these life experiences can change a person's perspective on loss.]]></description>
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<title>My Grief Is Worse Than Your Grief</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 13 Jul 2007 15:26:34 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Grief shows itself in many ways. sometimes it is more evident to onlookers than the individual involved, until an outburst of anger reveals its existence. There are those who use their grief as a "badge of honor," a way to garner attention and sympathy, rather than go deep and work on overcoming the grief. To some, covering up grief is better than confronting it.]]></description>
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<title>Death Of Love, Divorce Lurking, What Next?</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 09 Jul 2007 10:43:04 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[A dictionary definition of marriage states  that it is- "an intimate or close union, the mutual relation of a husband and wife, whereby men and women are joined in a spedial kind of social and legal dependence for the purpose of founding and maintaining a family." the key words here are: "become one," "united," "intimate," "joined," "mutual." So what happens when one partner wants to end it?]]></description>
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<title>Starting Over, Putting the Puzzle Together</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 28 Jun 2007 17:45:10 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[After becoming divorced or widowed, some try to fill the void with another person, expecting the past  to become the present. Finding someone to take the place of your old love is not realistic, because no one can be another person. Making personal changes in one's daily life, accepting that different is not a bad thing, can lead to an unexpected change in self-esteem and eventually a new life. ]]></description>
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<title>Alone And Lonely? Is The Dark Elephant Still In Your Living Room?</title>
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<pubDate>Sun, 10 Jun 2007 13:48:17 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[When jilted folks try to fill the empty space left by a new love, they sometimes ignore the dark elephant sitting in their living room.  What is the dark elephant? Read and find out.]]></description>
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<title>Divorced Or Widowed, Losing One's Keys Is Like Losing A Lover</title>
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<pubDate>Sun, 10 Jun 2007 13:01:00 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Although my husband had been dead for a number of years and I had gone through the grief process, the old bugaboo came slinking back into my life that day and all because I had lost my keys. This little throwback showed me that loss can leave a lasting footprint on the psyche. I still miss my husband and
I still miss my keys.]]></description>
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<title>Married? Dating? How To Communicate With Your Partner</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 23 May 2007 14:45:35 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[We are told that the cavemen communicated by grunts, hand motions and facial expressions, but since mankind has been given WORDS, it seems we misunderstand each more and more if we do not learn how to express and HEAR them properly. In relationships, facial expressions and body language are still important, but  being up front and honest can greatly compliment communication. ]]></description>
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<title>Divorced, Widowed, Devastated? Try The Mirror Test</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 21 May 2007 10:43:13 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[If one is in the midst of marital turmoil, divorced, or widowed, emotions of anger, resentment, pain and disbelief cause one to feel as if they are in the middle of a whirlwind.  Things seem unreal. One can lose sight of who they are and why they are in this situation.  Working through the pain is a necessity if one is to preserve their own sanity. Sometimes professional help is needed to be able to find the strength to move on.There is life after loss!]]></description>
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<title>Has Divorce Or Death Of A Spouse, Made You A Phantom Single?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 15 May 2007 08:08:33 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[What is a Phantom Single? Could YOU be one? Has your divorce or death of your spouse caused you to "go underground?" Are you invisible in the Singles world?  Learn how to come out of the realm of the phantom.]]></description>
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<title>Mother's Day, Special Gifts Sure To Please Her</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 10 May 2007 15:21:51 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Mother's Day is here again and you may not have gotten that special gift for your mom.  Take it from a mom of six, you do not have to spend a bundle of money to please her.  Sometimes the kind of gift you make can be the most remembered. Doing a special job around the home or tweaking her sweet memories can make you a star in her eyes.]]></description>
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<title>Divorced, Stigmatized, and Feeling Less Than Desirable</title>
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<pubDate>Sat, 05 May 2007 12:34:12 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Religious beliefs of "until death do us part" do not necessarily mean one must endure infidelity, disrespect and abuse.  Even the Bible says if a person is not a Christian and he leaves, let him (Para-phrased)   When the religious hurdle is crossed, then one has to deal with judgement from the "holy than thou's." A strong sense of self is important to overcome the stigma.]]></description>
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<title>Cancer Revisited, Finding Peace in the &quot;No's&quot; of Our Lives</title>
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<pubDate>Sat, 05 May 2007 10:44:05 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Only families who have been visited by this horrible intruder, can fully grasp the gaping hole that is left when a child is taken away because of cancer.  They blame themselves, they watch, helplessly as one whom they love so dearly suffers , unjustly.  They are exhausted, strapped financially, racked with emotional pain and can only hope and pray.  Oh, the prayers that are said. Then they wonder why the prayers seem not to be answered. Prayers change to- "God take them away so they won't hurt anymore."]]></description>
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<title>Widowed Persons and Some Stigma They Suffer</title>
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<pubDate>Sat, 05 May 2007 09:36:52 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Grieving and widowed is no protection from those insecure folks who think a single lady is out to steal her husband. Feeling like a third thumb is a given, but one must learn to create a new life with new goals and new friends.  Most of all, a single widowed person must learn to ignore other people's judgment of them.]]></description>
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<title>Trusting God, Things My Cat Taught Me</title>
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<pubDate>Sat, 05 May 2007 07:21:27 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Sometimes we take our pets for granted, but they can teach us much about many things.  Tiger's trust in me as his keeper is a compliment and a responsibility.  Tiger reminds me not to be so self-involved as he depends on me for his sustainance and I depend on him for his appreciation. Sounds like my relationship with God.]]></description>
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<title>Death Intrudes, Life is Short</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 18 Apr 2007 11:14:53 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[When we lose a loved one to death, it makes no difference if it was expected or unexpected, there is still a hole in one's life.  Remember the good times before it is too late, and tell your loved ones that You Love Them! A funeral is for the LIVING, left behind, NOT FOR THE DEAD.]]></description>
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<title>Parenting, Ode to Mothers</title>
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<pubDate>Sun, 15 Apr 2007 09:39:25 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Of all the "invented" holidays, Mother's Day is one that truly is a necessary days to celebrate.  No other experience can either make or break you if you do not have stamina, love, patience and tons of courage.  Anyone who calls her self "Mother" and does it well, deserves a medal and in the long run, she will receive it! Its called being a Grandmother.]]></description>
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<title>Marriage Ended in Divorce, But Still a #1 Father</title>
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<pubDate>Sat, 14 Apr 2007 21:03:22 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Divorcing a spouse does not give one the privilege of divorcing their children! Too often the anger and resentment is so intense that the children become caught in the swirl of words, actions and plans of unthinking parents. Using one's children to spy or trying to force them to choose sides in insensitive and very damaging. If someone else tried to harm your child, would you stand by and not take action?  Jeff, the unselfish parent in this article, is an excellent example of giving the best you have to your children of divorce...]]></description>
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<title>Alone Or Widowed - The Trip is More Important Than the Destination</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 04 Apr 2007 11:30:02 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Trying to move on with one's life after the loss of a love, is similar to a journey experience. Creating new memories, leaving the past in the past and enjoying the new "scenery" is part of moving the sadness and pain to the edge of your "table of life."  Learning to spread that table with fruits of gratitude is key to finding enjoyment again. It is a decision that can be life changing.]]></description>
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<title>Divorced and Single and I Resolve to Become a Butterfly</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 23 Mar 2007 13:17:10 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Being divorced and single is a time to think before we act. Occasionally when folks become free from marriage bonds, they seem to go wild, trying to fill all the lonely spots that have appeared. Being alone and lonely can be overwhelming, so much so that they hook into the first person who appears on the scene.  In reality, they should become like the butterfly, aware that the old life is gone and new life is on the way.  The trick is not to rush it.]]></description>
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<title>Being Single Or Widowed, Trying to Be Thankful, When Resentment Rules</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 19 Mar 2007 10:11:12 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[During any holiday or anniversary, single and widowed people may have a sense of anger and resentment as the changes that have occurred in their lives bring memories of the "good times" or the bad times, whichever was prevalent in their past.  Learning to move those memories to the "end of the table of life" is the work at hand. Finding ways to make a new holiday experience is important to the healing process.]]></description>
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<title>Lacking Self-Esteem? &quot;Loser, You're Useless!&quot; - Words That Echo</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 12 Mar 2007 08:03:03 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Without realizing the effect of our words, we are all guilty of taking jabs at those around us, sometimes even our own children.  Long after we have forgotten the remark, the wound is still bleeding in the young psyche.  Degrading words from those we love may remain in our hearts long after we have left childhood. In marriage too, we wound each other and walk away once our anger has been released, not realizing the damage we have done. Words do echo.]]></description>
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<title>Change is a Coming! Think - You Are a Buzzard, a Bat, a Bumblebee Or a Butterfly?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 09 Mar 2007 16:35:40 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[So often, we find ourselves in a situation that we think is inescapable.  Some may just accept, others may flounder about change and then some may just fly away. Learning how to manage life's good and not so good times is not so hard, when we learn to gather the courage and change our thinking. Sometimes our prison is of our own making.]]></description>
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<title>Uncoupled, What Next? How Can Divorced and Widowed People Move on From Stinking Thinking</title>
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<pubDate>Wed, 07 Mar 2007 11:13:29 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Being suddenly single as a result of the death or divorce of a spouse sometimes causes one to withdraw into a shell and fear moving on in the social world. Negative thoughts that float around in our brain create a lack of self-esteem.  We  are sometimes not aware that we have control of our "computer." Recognizing our thought patterns can change our presentation to the social scene give us new power to move on.]]></description>
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<title>Alone And Upset - Fearing For My Future - A Little &quot;Angel Boy&quot; Taught Me the Amazing Power of a Hug</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 02 Mar 2007 12:22:58 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[With a leaky ceiling, an ailing car, a failed A/C System, and a lost boyfriend all converging on me in one month, I felt alone and afraid.  While taking money out of my meager Savings Account, a little "angel boy" turned it all around with a hug.  The articles gives 12 good reasons for hugging those you love and even those you don't know that well.]]></description>
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<title>Widowed, Alone, Lonely, Grieving - Picking at Old Scabs?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 27 Feb 2007 10:33:38 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Whether it is due to the death of a loved one or just being alone and lonely, grief can sometimes be a dangerous time for the recovery process.  Pretending it doesn't hurt to lose a loved one or trying to fill the  hole created by them by a new love, can deepen the wound.  The grief process must be attended to. The wound must heal from the inside out before moving on.]]></description>
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<title>Domestic Abuse, Are You A Hostage In Your Own Home?</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 22 Feb 2007 17:00:34 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Abused spouses tend to take the blame for being abused. Children are drawn into the guilt by association, that is compounded when the abused spouse seems to allow and accept the abuse.    The abuse pattern is sometimes so ingrained in the family that it takes on a sense of normalcy. Clint Van Zandt, in his article Why We Love The Ones Who Hurt us, describes a possible answer for this situation, by explaining The Stockholm Syndrome. Different choices are offered.]]></description>
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<title>Divorce Recovery - Choosing to Ignore the Spilt Milk</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 22 Feb 2007 12:25:39 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Lamenting the loss of a spouse, due divorce, the loss of a job, or even a memory of a life, can be conquered. B.R. lost 3 years of his life and yet he was able to move on.  Due to his change in attitude, he was able to find a wonderful person to love him and he dearly loves her. He learned that each day is a gift and should not be wasted.]]></description>
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<title>Divorced Or Widowed - Are You Ready For Love - Again?</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 20 Feb 2007 09:44:52 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[Many times after the death or divorce of a spouse, people try to "fill the hole in their heart"  too quickly. A new relationship for the unprepared can lead to another heartbreak, simply by not think things through. It's hard work to keep a relationship going, and some don't wish to do the work, just jump into the water and hope.]]></description>
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<title>Divorced? Alone? Before You Set Sail Into the Sunset, Is Your Dock Built?</title>
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<pubDate>Sun, 04 Feb 2007 14:09:33 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[All too often separated, divorced or widowed people fall into a new relationship too quickly. Before they grieve properly, because of loneliness, a need to be affirmed or even as a result of financial considerations.  They either breathe a warm and fuzzy sigh of excitement or just do not think.  It feels better than being alone or the haze of "love" sets in, obliterating common sense and the ramifications of this new life.]]></description>
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